He would be perfect if he was a banker. She would be perfect if she wanted children. He would be perfect if he didn’t live in a different country. These are all things I hear from people who need relationship help because they’ve fallen in love with someone’s[i] potential.[/i]
I know you want her to make some changes, but these aren’t changes like getting her to pick up her clothes in the bedroom more often, or getting her to stop leaving the cap off the toothpaste. You’re wanting her to make personality changes. 😕 There are fewer things more futile than trying to will someone else to change! In fact, behavior modification works only when the other person is interested in either making the changes or avoiding the consequences of NOT making the changes.
Your girlfriend of five years isn’t interested in either of those things. 😳 It sounds like she’s changing her future plans, and sadly, they don’t include a relationship with you any more. I don’t think there’s much harm of trying to discuss this with her if you can get some questions answered, but I don’t think the discussion is going to change her mind. It sounds like this long term relationship is coming to an end. 🙁
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