It sounds like you both acknowledge that she does not put you first. Most men want to be number one in their relationships, as do most women with their men. If you don’t mind taking second, third or fourth place — or lower than that — to other people she’s “helping” on chat lines or on the internet, or who she used to date, etc., then you’ll be fine. But I doubt it’s going to work as long as she continues this behavior.
Break ups happen when one person is ready to leave. It doesn’t sound like either one of you are ready yet — but remember, she may just be trying to make you feel good by staying, since she knows you want to be in the relationship with her and she’s a people pleaser. In reality, she may be seeing other people, flirting with other people, or looking for her next boyfriend at the same time she’s trying to make you feel good. If she’s always being “nice” to someone to make them feel good, you’re never going to get honesty and you’re never really going to know where the two of you stand.
Eventually, I suspect, you’re going to have had enough, and you’ll move on. But until then, buckle up for rocky roads.
