[i]Run![/i] ๐ฎ
This guy is no good for you. ๐ In fact, when you wrote, “Sometimes I feel it is all about HIM and what he wants…” [i]you hit the nail on the head![/i] This guy acts like a child. [b]He[/b] wants what [b]he[/b] wants when [b]he[/b] wants it. He’s not truthful, and it’s not a surprise that he’s never married and is so close to his parents and won’t let you meet them. They’re the source of all this behavior.
Wow — don’t waste any more time with this guy who doesn’t really care about you — no matter what he says. His actions are [b]so[/b] clear. So, stop trying to trick yourself.
He doesn’t want you to meet his parents because he isn’t serious about having a relationship with you. He just wants you when [b]he[/b] wants you. And I hate to tell you this, but his parents will not like you ๐ฟ because you broke up his last relationship by being ‘the other woman’ — and for all you know he may have another girlfriend right now that you don’t know about, since he’s already cheated on you (and you allowed it) once — not to mention his cheating on his girlfriend at the time — and his parents may really like this new girlfriend that you don’t know about, a lot. Trust me, there’s a good reason for his not introducing you to his parents. He doesn’t like you enough, and they won’t either, and he knows it. Sorry — but that’s the truth. ๐
[i]I[/i] don’t think age is a problem in relationships, but I can’t imagine his parents are going to go for the age difference at all. Remember, this is their son that they’re close to, who’s never married. They are most likely going to perceive you, at 55 to his early 40s, as a threat to their relationship with him. Chances are they want him to continue to be their little boy, even at 40 something, and their family dynamic sounds twisted.
But enough about them! Whew! ๐
You need to understand your true value in this world. Until you start treating yourself like someone who deserves to have a man all to herself, and who is entitled to be treated with (real) love and respect, you’re going to continue to find yourself in these muddles.
It’s sad for me to hear that you would allow yourself to stay in these situations where you’re not being treated like a valuable woman.
I hate to sound like a broken record, but you should really get my book, Think & Date Like A Man (you can download it here, tonight! [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]) and read it over and over and over — until you really understand how to behave in order to find someone who really loves and respects you — and to get them! Not share them, but to get them all to yourself.
So, don’t chill. Break up with this bad boyfriend immediately! And start focusing on yourself. There’s so many wonderful men out there who will want to be your boyfriend when you start acting like you deserve one of them!
I’m sorry for the brutal honesty, but this one and a half year relationship has gone on too long. It’s time for you to find some real love. ๐
April Masini, your AskApril