Ha! Hey, you’re not alone! I’ve got the same issue in reverse! My wife will not open up unless she is absolutely ticked off about something. Getting her to tell me what’s up, or how she is feeling, is like pulling teeth. At our wedding when she was saying her vows to me, I choked up, because that was the first time I’ve heard those kind of words coming from her mouth, and it was the last! Anytime I try to express any kind of displeasure, or whatever is bothering me, it turns into a fight. Here is what I learned from her. I point blank asked her why she would bottle things up, refused to talk things out, and could never express her feelings for me. Her reply was that first, she hates confrontation, and the way I present things sometimes, sounds like I’m looking for a fight. Second, she has never been comfortable talking about things that involve feelings. Why she can’t tell me face to face why she loves me is still a mystery! Here’s what works for us. Instead of talking face to face, she will email me any problems she has. It’s childish in my eyes, but if that’s what it takes to keep the lines of communication open, I’m all for it. The issues that you have to watch out for are that you can’t read body language, or sometimes things are taken wrong on an email. Plus, it’s not intimate at all. I have changed the way I approach certain things with her. I have taken a more “beat around the bush,” tactic to get a point across. This guy you describe sounds like a good man. Could it be that he’s just not comfortable expressing himself, or maybe doesn’t like confrontation?
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