heavens_heart
I’m sorry to hear that your relationship is having problems. Most of us who care about our relationships dread about the day when we are going through tough times in the relationship so it is normal for you to be concerned. Though it is also normal to have tough times in your relationship. Relationships arent always going to be perfect even though most of wish for that. Just know that it cant always be kisses, hugs and beautiful words.It can only be as good as you BOTH make it, yes sometimes its going to hurt and you BOTH can be as happy as you want to be, but you BOTH gotta make it work. I understand your feelings about her being friends with her ex and spending time with him. You have a right to disagree with that and feel the way you feel. If she was in your position Im pretty sure she wouldnt appreciate it either. I just started dating my boyfriend around four months ago and a few months before I met him I was seeing my bestfriend I knew for years since highschool, things between us became distant and we stopped talking. I then found out he might have some girl pregnant so after hearing that news I moved on and met the guy Im with now. Long story short my bestfriend heard that I was seeing someone and tried to get in contact with me. I told him that I was sorry how things ended up between us but I was in a serious relationship now and didnt feel that it was right for me to still talk to someone I had a past with and I wouldnt appreciate it if my boyfriend was talking to a girl he had a past with either. Also, that it would make things complicated in our relationship and I wasnt willing to risk that. It does seem obvious that she still has feelings for ex. I feel that it is wrong for her to disregard your feelings and still talk to her ex. It is obvious that she is only thinking of her feelings. It is also wrong of her to be concerned with her exs feelings and to put his feelings first before yours because when the two of you got into the relationship you both made a commitment to eachother and it seems that she isnt handling her end of the commitment to you and yalls relationship. Im sure that she still loves you. Also, anyone that says they dont love their exs anymore is a lie. Dont get me wrong it might not be the same strong love that they used to have but there is still love in their heart for them because they were once a part of their life and who they are now. The best advice I can give to you is to talk to her and tell her exactly how you feel and what it is doing to your relationship. Sometimes people overlook things and dont see what is happening so you have to make them aware of it. Most importantly follow your heart and mind.
I hope everything works out for you and I hope what I said helps a little and if you have any more concerns Im happy to help.
