[April Masini, your AskApril]

Your instincts are good ones — [i]and you’re not following them! [/i] Your girlfriend is giving you every sign in the book that she’s not that serious about you, but you keep trying to make her be someone she’s not. Clearly she could take the photo and framed love letter from her ex out of her bedroom, and she isn’t. Clearly, she could have cancelled a plan with her ex-boyfriend because it’s disrespectful to be with him when you want a monogamous relationship with her. And….CLEARLY she’s doing what’s good for her — not the relationship.

I think you have to accept that she’s still playing the field and isn’t interested in committing to you the way you want her to. If you can do that and decide if you still want to date her, knowing she’s dating other people — or decide that you want a monogamous relationship and she’s not going to give you that, then you’ll feel a lot less upset.

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