Thank you for the advice. I have been trying very hard with my husband, and telling him about the issues I have had lately with our relationship, and I think things are getting better. I do really and truly love and appreciate him. My only issues now are 1) how can you make a marriage work when your schedules are so different you only see each other once a week, and one of you has to travel for business around the country frequently? He has to spend a good deal of time in Phoenix and LA, leaving me alone halfway across the country and 2) I am having a very hard time letting go of my guilt and regret, for what I have done and for wrecking a friendship I valued very much. Is it even remotely possible to dismiss the emotional affair we had and the one night we spent together as a serious lapse of judgment and remain friends? We are in the same social circle and have run into each other a few times at work events and at a party. It was civil but awkward, and every time we have tried to talk afterwards he seems to be angry with me and say it makes him uncomfortable. He is also still friends with my husband, which I find odd, as well (although they do work together, and its a very small firm). I just want to be able to fix things, and have them go back to when we were all friends and my marriage was good. Is this possible? Am I selfish? My sister says I am trying to have my cake and eat it too. I dont think that is it, I accept the other relationship as being wrong, and as being over. Why would it be so difficult for us to remain friends? I just want a way to ‘detoxify’ my life and try to make sure no one gets hurt any further. I am only 33, and I want to be able to move on and have a happy life. Thank you!
mmsmith1977