Threesomes never work. You can read lots of stories about couples who decided to have an open marriage or invite a third party in — even just for one time — and it always ends in one person in the couple falling for the third person. So I’m not surprised you’re telling me that you’re developing feelings for a guy who was supposed to be just a sex toy and nothing else. That’s what happens — women develop feelings for men when they have sex with them. And your husband is being honest that he doesn’t want to see you with another guy — and he means it.
If you want your marriage to work out then get rid of these peripheral relationships and work on what you have between the two of you. A long term marriage is going to work — or not work — because of the two of you. The extra folks you’re both sleeping with and getting involved with are just going to distract you from what’s there between the two of you — or not there.
I hope that helps. Let me know how things go.
April Masini, your AskApril