Your boyfriend made it clear that he doesn’t want to marry you because your minor daughter’s father is active in her life. The way you described it, you have a fair and civilized relationship with your ex, but it’s still not okay for your boyfriend. Rather than judge him, listen to him. He doesn’t want to be part of a blended family — and you have no choice but to find a husband who is comfortable with a blended family because your daughter and her father will always be in your life in some way. Sadly, although your boyfriend has many good qualities, he’s got one that is a deal breaker.
I’m sorry, but I don’t see how this can possibly work out in the long term. You need someone who is compatible with your situation and that means a man who is open to a blended family.
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