[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like you have a self esteem problem because your need for male attention goes beyond what is normal. Flirting online or at parties, etc., isn’t normally a problem if your boyfriend doesn’t feel disrespected, but when you start giving your phone number out to men, when you already have a boyfriend, you’re sending them a signal that you’re interested in more than just flirting. This is crossing a line.

It’s important that you start being honest with yourself — and everyone else — in order to correct this problem. If your boyfriend is upset with your general flirting, then you’ll know you’ve crossed a line in this relationship. However, some men are so secure in their relationships and they know that their girlfriends would never cross any line, that they just laugh off the girlfriends’ flirting. But you have to know how your boyfriend feels to find out where his feelings fall — and to see how comfortable you are to adjusting your own flirting to make your relationship a priority.

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