[TheArtistsTechnique]

Thanks for responding. Yes, I have always thought deep down they liked each other, but I thought I was just being jealous of their friendship because it was a girl. I decided not to ask him to cut ties, because I trust him. I also didn’t want to tell him to stop talking to her because I didn’t want him to resent me for telling him what to do and eventually leave me. We have been together for over a year and half and every other day and sometimes everyday, they text or call each other, about anything from getting together, funny stories, or needing advice. I feel that was too much and told him so, yet it continued anyway. When we were first dated dating, she would text him mean things about me, like digging up dirt on me because I’ve somewhat known her through college. Then she started to become my friend when she got a boyfriend, but she still was making fun of me when we were all hanging out and I would get jealous because my boyfriend would ignore me and mostly just talk to her. I have dealt with all of this and now she is actually causing us to fight and he’s standing up for her. I have just had it and I did tell him if he continues to be friends with her and her let her treat me like this, I would be gone. He told me he ended the friendship with her, but I still think she’s going to try to get him to be friends with her again and I’m afraid he will secretly be her friend. My boyfriend is friends with her boyfriend too so I know he’ll be upset if he has to cut ties with him as well. Her boyfriend and his female friend live together, so it’s going to be hard to trust that he won’t be seeing her too. Should I let him be friends with her boyfriend?
And yes, you hit the nail on the head with there is probably some attraction but she isn’t a long term girlfriend material for him so that’s why nothing happened. There friendship started because my boyfriend was friends with her brother, so they kinda knew each other and hangout through her brother. Her brother left for college and then they become more friends, and now he is more friends with her than he is with her brother, which is sketchy to me too. I do think there is attraction, but he has told me repeatedly that she is a nut and makes bad life decisions, so that is why I think he would never date her. She’s not the kind of girl I think he’s sees bringing home to the family or spending a lifetime together. Also, I’m very close to my boyfriend’s sister, we are like best friends, and my boyfriend’s sister hates this girl. My boyfriend is very close to his sister too so I know for sure, this female wouldn’t make it as apart of the family, like me.
One more part to this story my boyfriend was in a very serious relationship with another girl before me. His female friend didn’t like this girl and would get furious when he would hang out with her. My boyfriend would sneak around and still hang out with her and their other mutual friends and lie about where he had been. His female friend hated his ex and I feel she contributed to their break up. Ultimately I am afraid this could happen as well, since she has caused drama and gotten my boyfriend and I to fight with each other. How do I get her totally out of the picture without loosing him out of him feeling I’m been too controlling?
I’m really good to my boyfriend, always loyal, cooking, cleaning for him always, I’ve gotten into the things he is into, and I’m close to his family. I even told him I want to marry him. I’m three exams away from becoming a certified teacher and I told him once I start making money that I would support him to go back to school. I deserve better than this crap from his friend.