Everybody has their own schedule of healing. Some people practice chronic denial which keeps them paralyzed in their personal growth. Some people heal over years; some over weeks. It just depends on the person, the trauma and the circumstances. Sometimes people hold onto their hurt because they get something out of not moving on in their personal lives, for instance, they can hold onto hurt and blame the other person instead of processing everything that lead up to a hurt, which includes their own behaviors that would require taking responsibility and accepting their own part in the trauma.
Your new plan is a good one, and I wish you a lot of luck in love — and graduate school. 😀
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