[Anonymous]

Thank you! After reading your response I texted him to apologize and acknowledge that my actions weren’t stellar. We had a brief exchange which quickly ended and now I haven’t received any communication: no texts or calls, which is [i]very [/i] unlike him as he has both Monday and Tuesday off every week. Until this Sunday, he would always spend one of those nights with me and we had communicated every day; he always initiated the communication as well. I’d always receive a text in the morning saying [i]“I hope you have a beautiful day; miss your face.”[/i], [i]“wish I was with you right now[/i]“, [i]“miss your laugh”[/i].

I’m so frustrated and confused because he was so sweet. I’m not sure that it’s normal to pull back from such an interactive state due to one miscommunication; especially considering my attempts at opening a dialogue, acknowledging my negative actions/words and sincerely apologizing. We hadn’t even come close to talking about loving each other as it’s still ‘new’, yet he was always sure to call and/or text me every day. Even if simply to say “goodnight”. I’m not into the idea of chasing after him due to a miscommunication. I stated that I was sorry, and when he asked “for what?” I responded with: “For shutting down. I’m sorry. I’m a big girl and I can take responsibility for my actions.” to which he replied “There were no bad actions.” – still nothing after that.

I’m thinking I’ll let it ride and distance myself a bit until I hear from him. There are so many different schools of thought on this: never pursue the man, let him chase you, don’t change your life to accommodate him completely until you have a definitive commitment, etc… I attempted the dialogue but he’s remained distant. I don’t want it to end, but I’m not willing to lower my value and act desperate as that would make me feel uncomfortable. I would need some form of communication to let me know that he’s still ‘there’. If he’d have responded more openly, we could have spoken over the phone or in person and solved the problem.

He may just be taking some time to step back and review everything. He did seem to want to be serious; telling me what our mutual friends said in response to his telling them that we were seeing each other (positive feedback, which made him happy). I’ve remained more laid back but also receptive; just not placing any pressure on him; no expectations. Since I made two attempts now, I think it’s time he decided whether he wants to move forward. I don’t want to date a man who can’t communicate or who runs away. I have no problem recognizing and admitting my mistakes. If he can’t handle my being open and honest, then maybe it’s not meant to be?