He’s not your best friend — get that straight right off the bat. A best friend is loyal and this guy met you less than a year ago and pursued you until you relented and went out with him. After he got you, he told you he wanted to pursue someone else, too (and probably more than just one other woman). The problem is that when women sleep with men, things change. The relationship changes. Women get hooked and they use sex to try and leverage emotions from the man, not realizing that men have sex because they can. Not necessarily because they love someone or are expression emotions. Sex is physical for men. I’m not saying it can’t be everything — emotional, spiritual, and sexual — but often, it’s just physical for guys. That’s what happening with this man and you. He’s being very clear with you that he’s not going to commit to you, but wants sex from you — and the freedom to sleep with others. He’s not going to give you a commitment and you’re going to have your heart stomped over and over waiting for him to “come to his senses” and commit to you. It’s not going to happen.
My advice is to move on. You’re fooling yourself if you think letting him go is letting go of a best friend. A best friend would be loyal. This guy is looking for fun, adventure, and to experience lots of women. You’re not compatible. Sorry!
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