[April Masini, your AskApril]

Well, regarding your divorce attorney, there’s no mandated time period for you to wait before dating. I would just make sure he’s not your lawyer any more before you start dating since you’re already in the middle of divorce proceedings. If you were dating a lawyer and needed legal help, it’s not advisable to hire your boyfriend, but it’s not illegal. Where the trouble comes in is 1) if a client becomes a lover, and then the lawyer is liable for sexual harassment charges if you suddenly change your tune about how things happened and how his advances affected his representation, or 2) if you’re not clear headed enough to ask questions or make good decisions about your case because you keep picturing him naked.

Got that?

As for your attracting younger men, I really think you may not realize that you’re putting out some kind of energy that’s attracting younger men. I’d advise you to really take a good look at yourself when you’re out and about and try to figure out if you’re flirting without even realizing it, with these younger guys.

The other thing, and this is the most important thing you have to remember, is that you’re the one who can say no to the younger guys you’re attracting. If what you really want is older men then the ones you’re getting, don’t say yes to the younger ones. Don’t be available to them. If they come on to you, smile — and leave. If you’re chatting up some younger guy and a really great older guy comes by and sees you, he’s possibly going to walk away seeing you “taken”. Make yourself available for the kind of men you want, by using your power of ‘no’ to the younger ones.