[April Masini, your AskApril]

The problem isn’t that he’s the quiet type. The problem is twofold: First of all, you’ve graduated college and are out in the real world. He’s not. This makes the two of you incompatible (given everything else you’ve written). The other problem is that you’re into him more than he’s into you. 😳

His being “quiet’ or not as emotionally forthcoming with feelings is normal. But I think you’re focusing on that difference rather than understanding that this relationship may have run it’s course because he’s not ready for the kind of commitment you’re looking for at this time in your life. Yes, he’s got wonderful attributes, but you’re complaining a lot about him and that’s going to get worse if you stay together because he’s not who you want him to be. You’re going to start looking for things to pick at because you can’t get him to change the overriding differences.

One of the reasons I tell women not to say the L word first is because you’ve taken that opportunity away from him. If he doesn’t say it on his own — you know where you stand. You may not like it, but there’s no misunderstanding. It seems that he hesitated to say it after you did, and he may have felt forced into saying it before he was ready. That same dynamic is still at play — you’re trying to force him into a phase in the relationship he’s just not ready for.

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