[April Masini, your AskApril]

Let me start with your questions: Are you insane for trying to make this work? Yes. Can this get worse? Yes. Can this marriage be saved? No.

Easy, right?

The real question is why you subject yourself to behavior that is literally killing you. Do you need a neon sign? She doesn’t want you. I’m sorry. But if you can’t see that, you’re really in more trouble than I can help you with.

Of course she’s not going to “discuss a divorce with you.” 😯 She doesn’t have to. She’s got everything she wants. If YOU want a divorce then YOU will have to file for one and YOU will have to take charge of your life, because clearly she is not interested in your health, heart or well being in any way.

You may be young, handsome and able to get any woman you want — but not if you’re married to her, you won’t. And not if you’re dead from a second coronary attack. It’s time to do the right thing. Man up and call a lawyer in the morning.

I’m here if you need me — this isn’t going to easy, but it’s going to be a LOT easier than what you’re dealing with now.