Hey! You’ve gotten some amazingly good replies so far. I think everyone who’s read your messages can really appreciate the effort and willingness to learn and be guided that you are putting in this. That being the case, I’m fairly sure that having a superficial personality isn’t your problem, 😉 though you may be a bit awkward at letting your personality show through yet. Some other ideas in your pursuit of the the “real” woman — try some of the old-fashioned methods, too! They may seem corny (flowers, chocolates, etc.), but there are some aspects of chivalry and romance that have lost their prevalence but not their sincerity or impression on young hopefuls (like me!). To tell you the truth, I’ve never gotten flowers from a boyfriend or even a potential boyfriend, but if some guy gave me flowers, I’m going to take special note of that because it is more of a novelty in this day and age. Just something else to help you snag that special someone and stand you apart from the crowd. Another tip…especially if you are so athletic — learn how to dance! Not the bump-and-grind, hip hop, disco stuff… something like ballroom, two-step, swing, something! (My friends and I here in the midwestern US like western country music and country swing.) That way, you can invite her out to an evening or afternoon where you get to have your hands all over her (in a polite, restrained, yet somehow incredibly hot sort of way), teach her some moves (or maybe she already knows!), and both get your hearts racing while getting all sweaty! 🙂
JMG