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It would seem to me that you need to set your priorities and stick to them. If your priority is to have something more than a one night stand sex, then you need to develop new behaviors and break old behaviors. But sex is extremely gratifying and you have a long term behavior that is ingrained. This is not a behavior which causes physical pain- but at some level it causes you psychic pain, emotional void, ….something at a deeper level.

So think about how you change your other behaviors… cold turkey or committing to a new way of doing things, getting a friend to whom you are accountable, writing down goals. Also, spend time with people who have good ,deep, longf term relationships; they can incentivize you to act differently.

Animals have non discriminating sex. But can we agree that you ae much higher than an animal? That there are parts of you longing to enjoy companionship, interesting conversation, fun and funny times, a woman who can help you achieve more in a career..

We move toward pleasure and away from pain. Make a long term relationship a pleasureable thing in your mind and seriously ponder the painful consequences of continuing with one night sex … there are painful consequences.. AIDS, Diseases, emotional shut down, not having kids, being known as the one night stand guy..

Honestly, you sound like a nice guy… your future could be so much brighter, so much bigger, so much more rewarding to you if you choose new behaviors and grow up. Are any of these one night stand women going to be there for you when you need help? when life isn’t so rosey. Think of your self as the best and on a path to achieving the best and how great it would be to have an intelligent, classy, funny, beautiful woman cheering you on!! God has a better plan than what you have laid out for yourself. Serendipidous55