[Anonymous]

I hear you guys and my head is telling me this but i have known this guy for four years and when i spoke to him over the phone it sounded like a different person!!! it sounded not like his words but the words of his friends he sounded so angry thats why i thought maybe give him time to cool off. Everything was fine up until christmans when all his friends came to visit and he went to see his family and I think they have probably had some part to play. becuase he always said i told my friends all the things i did for you and they said if tey had a man like that they would have treated him differently. I think i am more pissed that i am given an unfair assessment of me because this relationship has been a two way street.

I am not contacting him anymore because like you have all said he has made it clear it just sounded like another man a very angry man who has the wrong end of the stick.

I am not going to contact him like i said hes supposed to call me but im going to give myself time to move on and when he does call i feel i am going to have to break some home truths to him.

Like he told me his mom was like maybe you could meet another girl in six months and get married but when he mentioned to his mom he was thinking of marrying me she told him you shouldnt think of those things. Like he was just flat out mean he was like i dont even talk to you right now im thinking about talking to some other girl and wanting to be with someone else.

Im sorry that is unneccessary for a break up and I am going to give him some space but I am going to get to say my piece because after four years is this what i get oh youre just some girl. This would be alot easier to understand if it sounded like the guy i knew but I suspect outside influences.

I accidentally deleted him on fb yes accidentally and i sent him a friend request and emailed him to say im sorry and he said he was a bit shocked!!! I was like you cant be that shocked its like he is purposely being mean this isnt like his personality or him. If this was normal or even something I could understand i could. I will accept it and move on but I think I am only going to get closure when I tell him some home truths about himself since he was so keen to tell me about me and things he was just picking at were so stupid like oh you never appreciated me when i gave him massages cooked ironed like just little things. And what i dont get hes still got a picture of us up on fb as his profile pic why not just take it down if youre so keen to be single and free.

I hear the advice and it is good and im not going to hold on to anything but this doesnt feel over i feel like i need to tell him he hasnt found someone else i know but its all too weird.
I think his ego has been inflated a little bit and Ill move on but i dont know