[April Masini, your AskApril]

I don’t know what’s going on in his mind, but his behavior suggests he’s gotten over you and just wants to be friends. You’re not at the same place, emotionally, so you’re confused that he can be.

I don’t think it’s a good idea for you to “cool down” for five months — I’m not sure what that means, since he seems to have broken up with you already. I think you should move on with your life. What he said to you seemed very rational. Long distance relationships are hard to maintain and after a year plus relationship with you, he had doubts about your future together and decided to break up. If someone doesn’t want to be with you, it hurts, but it also frees you up to not waste time pursuing a dead end. Instead of “cooling down” my advice is you get over him and move on. I know it’s hard to get over a break up, but you’ll feel a lot less confused and trapped if you let go then if you try to hold on to something that isn’t there any more.

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