EvieIt’s really hard to tell what men are thinking. And harder for me because I never had dating or relationship experience. I didn’t have a boyfriend until I was 22. In high school I told one guy how I felt, got rejected in the face, and the other guy, I was rejected nicely through IM and we remained friends to this day. I’m scared in general when it comes to dating and relationship stuff. So for me, it was hard to read between the lines or even interpret the signs. Or in other words, I was clueless.
Anyhow, just a few days ago, I found out he has a new girlfriend. I don’t know if he knows that I know he has a girlfriend now, but to me, knowing that he’s seeing someone new and me seeing him at work made me feel somewhat awkward and he’s still normal, being friendly. I feel like he’s a total stranger. I had been avoiding him for the past couple of days. I use to talk to him and his co-worker a lot and talk to him on Facebook but now it’s just saying things like “hi” or “how was your weekend?” at work. Even one of my co-workers (the same co-worker who suggested that I should ask him (the guy I like) out) brought up how he noticed that we (me and the guy I like) haven’t talked much. I told him (my co-worker who’s a guy) about that I found out and that I didn’t understand why (I asked that co-worker, hoping that with him being a guy, he can give me some insights into the male mind) the guy I like the way he did and he offered (I didn’t ask him to) to talk with that guy I like, a “guy heart-to-heart”, to see what that guy is thinking. I was told today by my co-worker that the guy I like doesn’t know what he wants yet (it was relationship stuff that was accidently brought up, and the two guys talked about it but not specifically my case).
I feel it’s somehow difficult to get over the whole thing of what happened between me and him, with him being around at work and I’m not wanting to quit my job just to avoid him. And I hate losing him as a friend (I hate losing any friends. My friends are very important to me). I guess at least the one good thing I want from this whole situation is at least he and I can remain friends if I can’t have him as a boyfriend.
Is giving him the silent treatment (or at least right now it seems like its leading up to it), ignoring him temporarily a good idea to help me get over this? Or would another technique be better?
