April Masini, your AskApril1. You dodged a bullet. You write that he lied, snuck around and kept aspects of his life secret from you during the six years you were together and had a child. Who on earth would want that kind of a man back? Go celebrate that you’re out of that mess.
2. Understand that she isn’t getting a better deal than you. She’s getting a man who lies, sneaks around and keeps aspects of his life secret from her. Same guy. Different woman. He hasn’t changed. And the proof is in the pudding: Do you REALLY think she’d be so hurtful to you if she was happy in her relationship? No. She’s not and she’s lashing out because she’s being put upon.
3. Don’t give her a target in yourself. Block your e-mail, block her number on your phone. Stop engaging with her altogether. No conversation, no phone, no e-mail no snail mail. You have the power to block her. Do it.
4. Figure out that you deserve a an who doesn’t lie. Now, go get one! They’re out there. But you have to date smart. Move on — it’s way past time.
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