April Masini, your AskAprilAn example of this is children who get angry at their parents because they can’t have what they want in the time that they want it and they’re hurt, but they know deep down that the love a parent has for a child is unconditional, and no matter how much a child lashes out, a parent will still be there for them. Sometimes people who are not children, but who are very upset and hurt that relationships don’t go the way they’d hoped, lash out at the ex-boyfriend or girlfriend — or even me! In fact, often on this forum, it’s common to see a man or woman lash out at a third party who has “stolen” a lover or spouse away — rather than getting angry at the lover or spouse who rejected them — or at themselves for having chosen someone who has treated them poorly or for having failed to see the signs along the way that would have shown them that the relationship was not going to last.
Hopefully, any poster who is angry at me will come to realize that Ask April is an advice forum where posters are free to come and go. Nobody is held hostage here or forced to read the posts, tweets or Facebook messages from the Ask April community — but it’s really great when you all do because we all learn from each other, and I’m glad that Jaga has found help in advice and comments from others here. But when someone stays on this forum — especially someone this angry — it’s because they’re not done venting the depth of the anger they feel, and they’re getting something they need here. If they weren’t, they’d just stop coming back.
Rejection and the loss of love are very upsetting and anger is a common way to deal with sadness — but it’s just a step in the process.
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