Hi April. I have been in a relationship with a man for a year now. When we are together, he makes me very happy. He treats me well, is loving, caring and supportive. In order for us to see us more often and for me to be closer to my family, I moved 4 months ago. Since that time, he basically lives with me. He gives me about $200 a month to help but honestly, he is here 6 days a week, eats, sleeps, etc. he doesn’t really help me around the house with anything, he’s not handy. I cook, clean and I have my own 2 kids to take care of. Of course, I bought the house on my own and support myself and my kids. He did help to buy some furniture but other than that, I sometimes feel used. I know financially he doesn’t not have much to give me but I told him, he should just move in at this point. The problem is his kids live with him (he still lives with his parents at age 37), are settled and he has responsibilities there, I can understand that. He pays his rent to his parents, etc.
On top of that, I just don’t feel 100% satisfied. He is a very moody person and sometimes I feel like he acts more like a woman with his emotions that a man! I am also moving along in my career, just recently got my doctorate degree and sometimes just feel “stuck” with him. He has so many qualities that are great, don’t get me wrong, but I often feel like to deserve more. Since he does not have much money, he doesn’t do much for me anymore as far as taking me out, etc. like he used to. To me, maybe he’s getting to comfortable?
Anyway, I have been married before and divorced now for over 5 years and I don’t want to be stuck in a relationship where I am not totally happy. At this point, I am not. What do you suggest?