50 Dates... And Still Alone This Valentine’s - AskApril Relationship Advice Forum

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February 10, 2026 at 7:03 pm #52414

Nick Roy
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Hey all, I am new to this forum , so I hope this type of post is ok.
I have dated over 50 girls in the last two years, but sadly, I haven’t found my soulmate yet. The first meeting was always exciting for me. After that, I would talk to them for a while, hang out with them, romance them, and even have sex with some of them. But even then,
Despite this, I feel lonely and anxious even after talking to them. Then I broke up with all of them one by one and now I’m single and Valentine’s Day is coming. I have no one, no romantic plans, no messages, no romance.
One thing that bothers me over and over again, which I want to ask you
Was I searching for something real, or just addicted to the thrill of something new?
Is it normal not to find the right person even after meeting so many?
I’d really need your honest advice.
Thanks for reading.

February 17, 2026 at 12:27 am #52450

April Masini, your AskApril
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Hi Nick!

I’m going to ask you a few questions. I won’t tell you what your problem is. Nope. You’ll figure it out yourself just by answering the question. The clarity you seek is in the truth you’ve been avoiding. THE DAY YOU ARE HONEST WITH YOURSELF IS THE DAY YOUR LIFE BEGINS. So, to the questions:

When you think of your soulmate, who do you think of?

What does she looks like?

What does she do for job?

What are her hobbies?

How old is she?

Where does she live?

What are her values?

What are her goals?

What role does family, community, or spirituality play in her life?

February 27, 2026 at 8:08 pm #52569

Eliana Solenn
Member #382,755

Hey Nick, It sounds less like you can’t find the right person and more like you might be chasing the excitement of something new. For me, fifty dates in two years is a lot! If you keep feeling lonely even after intimacy, the issue probably isn’t the women. It might be that you are avoiding emotional vulnerability or getting bored once the “thrill” fades.

March 1, 2026 at 5:30 am #52604

Lidya
Member #382,753

Nick, you must have made a long list of soulmates, but if you are capable of becoming someone’s soulmate, then you have wasted the time of 50 girls. Soulmates don’t fall from the sky; they have to be built. You are shopping, not building a relationship.
I think you should delete your dating apps for the next six months and don’t talk to any girls. Your mind is fucked up. Unless you can be happy alone, you won’t be happy with anyone else. 50 dates is not a failure. That’s a warning sign that the problem isn’t with them, it’s with your vision.

March 4, 2026 at 6:02 pm #52662

Freya Jhon
Member #382,757

Bro, 50 girls? This is not dating, it’s an “internship”. Nick, you are an addict of new relationship energy and don’t want love; you want a dopamine hit as long as there is a girl you enjoy it with as soon as things get old, you have to work hard, and you run away from it.
You are getting physical but not getting close on an emotional level. It is easy to sleep with someone, but difficult to share your worries and weaknesses with someone.
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