You need to find a good time to talk with him about the pain you feel inside becaue of his emotional affair. He has cheated on you and you have not dealt with it. I’m assuming it was never discused either…correct? Being pregnant and finding out that your spouse cheated is probably one of the most emotionally difficult things to experience. You are at your most vulnerable then and you needed your spouse to be there for you and he wasn’t. I’m not justifying his behavior but perhaps your husband was feeling scared or vulnerable and you weren’t giving him the necessary attention that he needed or he felt like he couldn’t tell you and then some other woman was able to fill that need. Just because he isn’t pregnant doesn’t mean he’s not experiencing this new part of life and it’s uncertainties. He may not have been able to deal with it all and communication is key here. The point is, while this doesn’t justify what he did, he was needing something too. You need to find out what that need is and fill it. Don’t just think about you in this situation. Communication is the first step but do not blame him. Try to understand his position and work from there. But you definitely need to talk with him and let him know you still carry this hurt with you. Ask him to help you work through this and let him know that it bothers you that he still talks to this woman and in order for you to heal and trust him again he needs to stop the contact with her.

If it’s one thing I’ve learned is men need to feel respected above all things. Show him respect even if you don’t feel like it. He is a human being and the father of your children. Your children need to see you respecting him. You can only control you and your responses and they will see your responses. Be a good example to them. You don’t have to respect what he did with the OW but you can respect him and his needs.