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I recently met this very incredible guy & I know… 99% of us women start of saying that, but I truly did, or so I think. He’s big into fitness training like myself, doesn’t drink, has his own place, no children, 2 years older then me, stable job, no baggage (so far & knock on wood lol). I actually met him at the gym. Long story short, I never do this, but I noticed him & I ran up to him in the parking lot & asked for his number which he gladly gave me. The following evening we went out for Sushi & it was one of my best dates ever. That was Friday night, then Saturday we went out in our local downtown historical area and walked around for hours & then went back to his house to watch a movie. We sat out on his porch & watched the sunset together & laughed constantly. The following day, Sunday he asked me again to come over & we cooked dinner together & watched another movie together. We eventually fell asleep in eachother arms with me on his chest & by the time we woke up it was 2 o’clock in morning & I had to go home. I was not going to give him a bad impression by staying so I left which he said he understood.

Now this might sound SO silly to notice & pick up in texts, but he use to say in his texts “muah” at night & he didn’t last night, which surprised me. I’m suppose to see him tomorrow night for dinner because he’s living for Boston (where he’s from) for his cousin’s graduation Thrusday, but I don’t know if it’s too soon to remind him about the date tomorrow night or not… I don’t want to come off needy or pushy, but I want to remind him & let him know at the same time I’m really excited to see him. Sunday before I came over I asked when should I come over he said “5, well, anytime really. I’m just laying stone in the backyard. But I’d rather be spending time with you, so come now if you’d like.” Of course when he said that my heart fluttered like I was sixteen all over again.

So my question April is, how can I ask him about tomorrow without being pushy or looking too excited, but still showing that interest? And do you think he’s interested? I mean 3 dates in 3 days? He was the one who always asked me about getting together for the next one so that’s a good sign I guess 😀 . Thanks April!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Take a look at your other posts on this site– and my advice to you on this posts — and you’ll know what I’m going to say! 😉 You have a tendency to chase guys and push them for answers you feel you need. This isn’t a good idea if you want a guy to think you’re desirable and to want to chase you. If you take away the opportunities for him to chase you — because YOU’RE doing the calling, texting, and chasing — he’s going to lose interest. 😳

[quote]So my question April is, how can I ask him about tomorrow without being pushy or looking too excited, but still showing that interest? [/quote]

You can’t. Don’t ask him. If he wants to see you, HE’LL ask YOU. If he doesn’t, you weren’t a priority — or he feels like he’s seen you enough for now. I know that you’re excited and you want him, but you don’t get to find out how he really feels about you if you do all the pushing and chasing — and you may push and chase him away.

[quote]And do you think he’s interested? I mean 3 dates in 3 days? He was the one who always asked me about getting together for the next one so that’s a good sign I guess .[/quote]

Don’t fool yourself. 😕 He didn’t ask you out on a first date — you asked him out. It’s not clear if he would have asked you out first because you took that opportunity away from him, and from yourself. 😮 I’m not sure who asked who out on the second night when you walked around and watched a movie at his house — but again, it wasn’t the kind of date a guy plans when he really wants to win a woman over. And the third night when he invited you over to have dinner and watched a second movie wasn’t a a big showing of confidence that you were someone he wanted to wine and dine and win over. And the date you’re interested in having with him was, again, him just telling you to come over to his house…… 😳

My advice is to sit tight and see if he’s REALLY interested in you. Right now, you’re making it very easy for him, and you’re not giving him the opportunity to miss you and to want to see you enough to make a special showing. I don’t think you should remind him or call him again. If he wants to call you and ask you out on a date, he will — and then you should say yes. 😀 But not before.

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