[missyT]

My boyfriend and i have been going out for a while now and everthing is going good, but this past week he has been asking all sorts of questions. He keeps asking if I can see us together in the future and i told him that i dont know. He told me that he cant, and he wants me to tell him why. But I dont even know why. It worries me evertime he says stuff like that. This is the longest relationship he has been in and he tells me that its hard for him to open up to people. I love him, but if he cant see a future with me should I still go out with him or not? And how can I get him to open up to me more?

[Ask April Masini]

I realize that you are in a very upsetting situation. Unfortunately, I have a lot of women ask me, [b][i]what should I do to get my guy to commit or to move our relationship to the next level (or some other version of your question and circumstance)?[/i] [/b] That being the case, I know that you are not going to like what I have to say on this topic. However, since you asked me I must assume that you really want to know the truth of what I think you should do.

So here it goes… I honestly believe that when a man says something like “I don’t see a future with you” that you should take what he’s telling you at face value. Of course there’s always the possibility that when you do what I’m about to recommend you do that he’ll change his tune. But, unless/until he does (and backs up his change of heart up with actions demonstrating such) here’s what I suggest to you and any woman who find herself in a similar situation:

If a woman feels like her guy is wasting her time and may never ask her to marry him, she should stop spending all of her time with him and immediately begin to date other men

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