[mae4ever]

I don’t really get this guy.we’ve known each other for only 3 weeks.And acting as if he’s my boyfriend.Here’s the story. I updated my status saying ” I miss u and me, 15 days more” He asked me about that and I said it’s nothing.I updated again saying ” 14 days more” He actually teased me that’s it’s not 15 now.That’s why I changed it made it 14 days. He also said like ” Looks like There is a lover who is coming back. ,.When I changed it into 14 days more. he asked me again about that I said it’s holiday.which I’m kinda excited within 15/ 14 days. I just told him I’m not gonna do it again.So that he’ll stop asking me about that. But then I did it again and made it ” 13 days more” And he started asking me again.. He said that’s he’s not gonna talk to me anymore because it doesn’t make any sense if a friend lies.I told him I can’t tell it.And asking him ” Can’t a friend keep a secret?!”But seems he can’t understand me.Then we didn’t talked about it in 2 days. But then after 2 days He asked me again the same question. If I’m gonna tell him about the countdown thing. And I said no. Then he said,” okay I’m not feeling good.gotta go to bed goodnight” and he just signed out in yahoo messenger. These talking was over the yahoo messenger.He also told me that “he’s not gonna find look for me anymore, and If I changed my mind I’m gonna go and find him”

I don’t know if he’s jealous or what. Should I tell the reason? Because the reason is my guy friend is coming back in 13days and I’m really excited because I like this guy. And I don’t want him ( the guy in 3 weeks)to think that I’m just using him while my guy friend is not around.But it’s not true..I don’t know! Because the guy that I’m seeing right now he said he likes me and I like him too. But my guy friend he didn’t even say that he likes me.

I know your advice will help me a lot..thank you.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you definitely like the attention of both guys and that’s why you didn’t want to tell one guy the reason for your status countdown — so you could keep him on deck for yourself while at the same time enjoying the anticipation of this other guy coming back into town.

If you do tell your in town friend the reason for your status count down, he’s going to lose interest in you. And if you keep it a secret from him, he’s probably still going to lose interest in you because you keep secrets from him, and he doesn’t like that. No guy would. In fact, you wouldn’t either, if the tables were turned.

My advice is not to make your feelings so public! Especially since you like playing the field, which is entirely appropriate for a 15 year old! Just because you’re excited about a guy coming back in town so you can see him, doesn’t mean you have to tell the whole world about it and expect other guys who like you not to react.

So practice privacy. That’s going to help you a lot. It’s also going to put a lid on any drama you’re drumming up to get attention for yourself (which you may not even realize you’re doing).

But since you already did post your countdown online, and the guy who’s liked you for three weeks now knows about it, it may be better to tell him, even though you can’t control what he’s going to think. Next time, keep your crushes private — not public.

I hope that helps! 🙂

[Anonymous]

thank you!.that helped a lot..cause i though he won’t pay attention in that post..Because I’m not really serious type when it comes to guys..Just having dun of dating..

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Glad I helped! 😀

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