[rokingayush]

Hey there..
I met a girl in my class in April this year..we went about our business..talked..chatted..even our other batchmates teased us that we are dating or we should.. But I didn’t want things to get complicated.. So I kept my distance from her being a friend..
I dated a girl for a few months then..and she(the first one) sometimes saw us hanging around n talking.. She didn’t say anything..it ended..n things seemed normal..
But I just can’t stop thinking about her now..thought of her brings a smile to my face..
And in my last relationship.. I always had her in the back of my mind..and somethings happened that even deepened my feelings for her..
Like on Christmas day we spent almost 4-5 hours and talked some personal stuff..and we just met for breakfast and ended up till 3 o clock..
And now I think I have lost my chance with her..and that she might not take me..as she has seen me with some girls now..one I dated and others were just 2 friends hanging around..
Help me..I don’t know what to do..

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Ask her out on a date! I know you’re fearful of rejection, but if you don’t face that demon head on, you’ll lose out on the opportunity to get clarity. If she likes you and accepts, great. And if she turns you down, then you’ll know where you stand and will be better able to decide what to do next. 🙂

[rokingayush]

But she seems distant I don’t know why..
I mean..first we talked a lot..and now it seems she’s ignoring me..
Maybe I’m thinking too much (though all my friends say I do tend to overthink every situation)..
But her body language and her way of talking has been kind of distant in the last 3-4 days..( since that date on Christmas)
So I want to ask how should I approach her??
Though She is busy with her work lately..
But I don’t know why my mind keeps telling me that she’s kind of pushing me away or ignoring me..
Am I thinking too much about this??

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The reason I suggested that you ask her out on a date is because that will keep you from thinking about it. You’re spending a lot of time in your head, and not enough in real life. Ask her if she’d like to see a specific move with you on Saturday, or ask her if she’d like to have coffee with you. If she says no, then just move on and find someone else to spend time with, who’s more interested in you! 😉 I know that the idea of rejection is scary, but it never killed anyone! Just ask her out. It’s good practice, and you may a get a yes. And if you get a no, that’s helpful because it’s a sign that you should move on.

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