[ilovehim]

okay so i have a wonderful relationship..excluding his CRAZY ex. ok so we started dating on Christmas and my other gift frrom him was a necklace with a heart charm. ive gotten jewelry from family members and other boys but i cherished this necklace as it was from him. well ive worn it about 5 months now today in school(me and my bf are 15) his ex was going around telling people it was her necklace and she left it over his house and he wouldnt give it to her, two people she told told me. so i was upset but IF it was hers i didnt want it so i texted her and said i didnt know it was hers and she could have it back.she told me a different story, that he had bought her for her Christmas gift and she always forgot it and he reminded her to get it all the time. so i told my bf i was mad and upset and he said he bought the necklace five months ago and it wasnt ever hers(they broke up almost a year ago) he promised me …so i was starting to believe him but his ex texted me and we were talking and she told me that he had bought it for her but she didnt take it because she felt bad and i asked why and she said because it had probably costed alot. at this point i told her she needed to get her lies straight and she began telling me how her friends had all seen it and i said ok thought you didnt take it in which case how did they see it and she said he sent her a pic and i said if you never took the necklace it wasnt ever yours so just let it go and she was like i dont care you can have it and i said i know i can because its mine? and she said it was and then she told me that he had kept it at his house and she had seen it in his room when she went over. during all this time my bf is to believe him,that he wasnt lying and that he promises it was bought for me and he had never showed her.
im sooo confused if it was his exs i dont want it id be heartbroken and id feel stupid
but if it wasnt i dont see what his ex is gaining because she isnt even the one who told me…even so
her story changed alot, she has tried to break us up numerous times,she hates me and she …is just crazy and i trust my boyfriend……
who do you think i should believe
AND
is it a big deal if it was hers or meant to be hers?…should i be ok with it?

[AskApril Masini]

You know the answer to this question! 😆 It’s not a big deal. Don’t create a drama hive out of what is at worst, a faux pas on your boyfriend’s part by re-gifting a necklace he’d bought for someone else, and at best is his ex trying to break the two of you up.

My advice is to let it go. If he IS lying and he did give you a necklace he meant for someone else, then he needs to learn a few manners about gift giving to girls, which I’m sure this episode has taught him. [i]If[/i] he lied because he’s embarrassed at being caught in a re-gifting scheme, this isn’t the same kind of lie that some people tell when they’re caught cheating or stealing. It’s not right, but it doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. Besides — he may be telling the truth. Regardless, you’re not going to know right now. It’s going to take time for you to get to know him better so you can be a better judge of his character. For now, let this go.

As for the ex-girlfriend, my very strong advice is to STOP engaging with her. Don’t talk to her. Don’t fight with her. Don’t defend yourself. She’s just stirring up trouble in a place that is not her business. Stay away. You can’t control her — but you can control yourself.

And don’t stress on this one. 🙂

[ilovehim]

🙂 thank you soo much:)

[AskApril Masini]

You’re welcome! 😀

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