[Maria30]

Hi Everyone,

Need some advise, My boyfriend of 3 years is away on business. He’s been away for 3 months so far. Recently we’ve had disagreements over a specific topic.

He goes out with this guy and some of the guy’s friends, up to this date when he does getting him is almost impossible. He claims he either never got the messages or his phone died. I have expressed that I’m not happy with him going out every weekend this guy, yet he does it anyone. Tonight we were talking online and as soon as the guy called to say time and place he didn’t hesitate.

Am I being unreasonable, what would you do or say if you were me?

Maria30 😥

[ncsaturn]

Do you really think his phone dies every weekend just when he is out with this particular person, or he doesn’t get the texts? Especially if you message him a second time and you don’t hear back, he is ignoring your message. The fact this is happening regularly is telling. He is ignoring you for some reason. If you tell him how you feel, using “I” messages…I am feel upset when I don’t hear from you”. “I am unhappy with what seems to be a pattern with my messages being unanswered”. What do you think is behind him not answering? On the flip side, sometimes people need some space. If this is the only thing that seems amiss, maybe you need to let it go for a little bit.

[AskApril Masini]

If you’re in a long distance relationship, then you have to let things go, if you want it to last. 😉 However….. there’s a lot you’ve left unsaid. For instance, how old are the two of you, and what’s your end game? If you’ve been dating for three years, and he’s suddenly away for three months, is there concern on your part that he’s pulling away? Are you frustrated that after three years at whatever age you are, there’s no ring and no date? And what’s the specific topic you’ve been arguing about? In addition, is this business trip going to end soon, or is he going to be away indefinitely? For a year? Two? Fill me in further, and I can give you more advice!

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