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Hi April, I have been dating a great guy for about 2 months. The entire 2 months he came to me nonstop, planning and taking me on dates 2 times or more a week and texting everyday even as he works multiple jobs. We’re both 23. We have not been intimate, our physical contact is PG-Rated.

He took me to meet his friends 3 weeks ago, and I met his coworkers and his parents/family in the same weekend, which is last weekend. The problem is I was pretty shy and nervous around his parents and he is a guy with good manners, so I wondered if he was embarrassed by how I acted. After that, the next day he hardly talked to me at all. And Tuesday, which is this Valentine’s Day which he talked about 2 weeks beforehand and even got the day off work specifically to take me out, he also didn’t seem so excited. Which was strange to me since he had been talking about it for weeks. He was normal when I was with him. However since he seemed to suddenly cool off after I met his coworkers and parents in the same weekend, I assumed he wanted space and I haven’t tried talking to him after Valentine’s Day. So 2 days with no contact. This is the longest we’ve gone without talking, and at the back of my mind I wonder if it was rude of me not to at least have sent him a text thanking again for planning and taking me out, which I usually do after a date. (There’s been some things he’s clued me in on that makes me think he wants me to text him first after he takes me on a date)
That aside I have 3 questions –

First: Was him having me meet so many people in his life in such a short time too much at once? (HE initiated this)

Second: I know he may be getting pressure from his family and friends and even coworkers who refer to me as his girlfriend. This is his fault though because I know he talks about me to everyone he knows, so they ask when we’re going to be a couple. I myself have never brought up when we’re going to be boyfriend/girlfriend, even though we’re exclusively dating. Is the pressure from people around him causing him to take a step back?

Third: I want to know if I’m right to give him the space I sensed he wanted. First of all we saw each other nonstop for 2 months, bonding, I met everyone close to him. He even told me almost a month ago that he hadn’t wanted to see any of his friends since he started dating me, and when I went to go meet them that was the first time he’d seen them in a month (I didn’t encourage this). He had started acting weird after I met his parents, which were the last step in meeting people in his life. I assumed he needed some space after that because I know meeting parents is a big thing. (I’m the second girl his parents met) I have heard that once a guy sees that things are getting really serious with a girl he wants some space to evaluate the relationship.

I haven’t contacted him since V-Day, and have not heard from him either. I want to know if I should continue to give him space and wait for him to come to me, or if I was wrong in being silent and should come to him.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like something didn’t go the way he hoped when you met his parents and friends. 😳 It’s probably okay to let him know you had a nice time on Valentine’s Day and thank him for whatever it is he did for you. But don’t push. 😉 If he’s no longer interested, it may hurt, but it is in your best interest to know he’s not wanting to date you any more. Silence is a way for you to know he’s not interested.

Give it one text and then back off. You don’t want to complicate things — and you do want to know what’s going on, but you don’t want to prolong communication that is just going to lead to a break up.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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