You’re not the problem, but there is something to understand about your pattern. You say you leave girls quickly because you were “dependent.” That sounds like emotional dependency maybe you get attached fast, expect a lot, or feel pressure for things to stay exciting. When that fades or feels uncertain, you leave. That’s not bad it’s human but it means you might be chasing the feeling of connection, not building the deeper one that lasts.
April Masini gave smart advice: stop trying to “pick up” women like it’s a game. Focus on connecting with people. Flirting isn’t acting like a bad boy it’s just showing interest in a confident, relaxed way. You can be a gentleman and attractive. Respect and warmth never go out of style; they just work slower than arrogance but what you win lasts longer.
Here’s the truth about “bad boys”: women aren’t drawn to cruelty they’re drawn to confidence, mystery, and self-assurance. You can have all that without being rude. Work on being grounded, not needy; curious, not pushy; playful, not performative.
Try this shift: instead of thinking, “I want to pick up a beautiful girl,” think, “I want to meet someone who feels good around me.” When you radiate calm confidence, dress well, stay fit, and enjoy your own life women will notice you, even before you say anything.
And if you haven’t met someone for two months? That’s okay. Use this time to level up physically, emotionally, and socially. The better you feel about yourself, the less you’ll chase approval from others.
