[SharonTeo]

I would cut everything short.
I was from a different department from this lady. We worked under the same building and we have seen each other a lot along the corridor. There was once that she helped me out with my work related project and she gave me a positive impression.
One day, my good friend linked me to her facebook. I added her as friend and even private message her (introduce myself). She did not reply or add me, I was sort of disappointed. The very next day, my friend found out about this, and started teasing me over the issue; she’s not adding me. This became a norm eventually since he’s doing it everyday. My close friend knew her for 3 years; and he’s engaged with another lady.
A few days later, I saw her along the corridor, she stared at me from afar and when I looked at her, she looked away. There were occasions at which, she was talking to her friends, and whenever I appeared she kept quiet. I was disappointed by her reaction. I sat on the fence and started to ignore her as time passes by (for nearly 2months).
Several months before, my good friend suddenly messaged me and informed that her mother passed away. He even offered me her number so as I could comfort her but I rejected. At the end of the day, I sent her a condolence message over the facebook but she did not reply.
I always thought that I was overly sensitive regarding the eye contact. One day, I was with my classmate along the corridor. Suddenly, she came out from one of the classroom and we came face to face with me. I was shocked and walked away without looking at her; I know I shouldn’t react in that way. My classmate saw the whole incident and informed me that she was looking at me, but when I ignored her and walked away, she looked down and walked away slowly.
There were several occasions during attachment. She was sitting at the front desk facing the glass door (customer service officer, 2 counters only). It’s natural for a person to look at the person who came into the building whenever the glass door opens. But I noticed that everytime I entered, she was staring at the monitor, initially I thought she was busy reading something on the screen but I found out that she wasn’t, she’s just staring at her desktop blindly everytime.
My close friend did ask me before how I feel about her, but I always bluntly told him that I only regarded her as a friend. I thought that she’s ignoring me all along and I continued sitting on the fence without doing anything.
Several weeks ago, her behaviour seems to have changed. Whenever I walk pass her along the corridor or basement. She would look at me from afar, but when I caught her looking, she would turn away (When I turn head again, I caught her staring again). From the first day till now, it’s being 7 months. My close friend teased me daily till it was a norm but I have noticed the changes in her.

Am i really under reading obvious signs, or am i just overly sensitive. I’m totally lost in the game and losing confidence overtime. Some advice please

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not sure what you want from her. Do you?

[SharonTeo]

I admitted that i do really like her… and wish to advance the like.

But the way she reacted to me, sort of hinting that she’s staying away from me. As i recalled, I have not offended her in any way. The ignoring part really traumatized the feeling i have for her overtime.

I have being sitting on the fence for along time, I always believed that she’s ignoring me. That’s the main reason why i have being avoiding her and keeping a distance since she does not want to be friends.

I spoke with my friend about the problem above. Almost 9 out of 10 friends; Male and female, said that there is a chance that she’s trying to play with my mind and she’s waiting for my respond. My friends did mentioned that she played that game because her motive was to get me to talk to her but all i did was sitting on the fence and keeping distance.

I always thought that facebook and etc could be used as a tool for communication. But i never know that by adding her could lead to such devastated outcome. After all, April; I would like to seek a experienced point of view from you. Thank you.

The Question: Am i really under reading signs provided by her and my perception of ignoring was wrong all along?
Are the signs mentioned above, really prove that she’s keen to talk to me but waiting for my approach?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you’re making way too big a deal out of very little. If you want to ask her out on a date, then ask her out on a date! If she says yes, then she’s interested. If she says no, then you can move on and find someone who’s interested in you as a date! 😉

I don’t understand what is so devastating about your Facebook interaction. It’s probably weird to her that you see her in real life, but are using the internet, instead, to introduce yourself. Go meet her face to face and invite her to go on a date. 😀

I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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