[riggers22]

hi there, i’ve been good friends with this girl ’emma’ for 4 years of college i went away for a year and when i came back i got a job just minutes away from her and her home town. We’ve started hanging out quiet a bit and texting regularly. spent a day at her town meeting the friends and family and she offered me the couch for the night. I’ve told her how that I’d like to take the friendship that bit more serious, she said that she had been aware how i felt but just wasn’t ready for anything serious after her last relationship end in heartbreak. We still text and hang out but i cant stop the way I feel about her. should I hang in there and gradually change her mind or jump in?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, take yourself out of the friend zone. You’ll lose your leverage at dating her if you wind up sleeping on her couch and talking to her daily. 😉

Second of all, give it a shot. Invite her to dinner or a movie or some great date that is specific to the two of you. She may think she’s not ready, but the only way for her to really know if she’s ready to date again is to be faced with an invitation — not an ambiguous hanging out invite, but a real, proper date.

If she says no to the date, you can try a second invite after some time has passed, but if you get shot down twice, my advice is to move on completely (as friends as well as a romantic possibility) and to know you’re not wasting your time. 🙂

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[riggers22]

prior to this moment we have been to the cinema a couple of times and share some laughs. But where things for me get confusing is that i asked her if she would want to meat up for a evening meal, she said no to my formal idea but sugessted to meat up to watch a match and get dinner after @ the establishment. it was a quiet place where we were together with o distractions, and not much of the match was seen. This is when i took it to be that she was/is interested in taken things that bit more serious. And the way things stand it is obvious to all her friends that she is who i want!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Great! 😀

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