I’ve recently gotten back into dating, met a dude through an online dating site, and we seemed decently compatible. He’s the one who reached out and gave me his number, and we were texting for a good week. Not constantly, but every other day, or so, and he seemed super excited to meet.
When we finally met up it was at a coffee shop–and he didn’t look all there. He may have been hungover–I did see him downtown at the bars when I was downtown the night before, ha–or nervous, or both, I’m not sure. Thing is he didn’t exude that excitement like in his texts. AND he didn’t pay for my coffee, which set the tone for the entire date. I sensed that I’d gotten the wrong idea about this guy, but sat down and talked for almost two hours w/him anyway. He was a great conversationalist, asked me a lot of questions, many of them very detailed and demonstrating that he’d been paying attention to my online profile and to our texts. He spoke very fast and didn’t make eye contact all the time, though (nervous?).
Other turn offs: he talked about his ex and how they ended in disaster. How he’s afraid of marriage (I am too, so this wasn’t an issue. It was the ex that annoyed me.) And then, later, he makes up some excuse that he has to be at a friend’s house, that he still feels a bit hungover–yes, he actually said this–BUT that if I’m in town again, to tell him, ’cause he’ll be home during Thanksgiving and won’t be going anywhere. Ummm…was that even a serious invitation? Dunno. He’s all over the frickin place.
Long story short, I was disappointed and went home convinced he only saw me as a friend. So, I decided to drop him from then on. BUT, that same night after the date, he sends me a few texts about what I was up to. This is the part that confuses me. Does he like me then, does he just feel bad, does this action mean anything? Idk. Then I text him back and now it’s been two days since he’s contacted me. I don’t know how to read this guy at all.
Sorry for the long post, but i figured he’s so difficult to figure out I’d better give you the details. Thanks!
