Help! I’m currently friends with a former ex-boyfriend whom I’ve dated 20 years ago. We lost touch for 17 years. Through a mutal friend of ours, we reunited approximately 11 months ago. In the beginning, it was very casual, ie@ catching up, how have you been etc. Come to find out, he was single as I was myself. Eventually, things progressed just a little, he would come to see me at work, we would talk on the phone constantly, go to lunch together and spent my birthday together. We’ve kissed but nothing more. About 4 months ago, he told me he didn’t like me as a girlfriend. Friends only. While hurtful, I respected this and went on my way. Dropped contact with him until, one month later he made contact with me. Now keeping this in mind, I kept it at a friendship level. While we still don’t communicate as othen as we did in the past, we do communicate approx. once or twice a week. He has asked me to go with him to look at furniture for his new home, to go look at his new home, ( no I am not moving in) gone to lunch and occasionally will stop by my place of employment. He was supposed to stop by my house on Thanksgiving but, I didn’t due to me changing the time. Next week we are attending a play together.
He recently met a girl and has told her that we are attending a play next week. While she didn’t go for this, he explained ‘ We are JUST FRIENDS.’ Hearing the words just friends hurt me more than I thought would. Should I continue being just friends or tell him that, i have feelings for him?
