[libra1963]

I use to teach and there is a mutual attraction between me and the principal. Its a long story and it will be hard for you to get the full picture but here are a few examples of things he does:

1. When in a staff meeting me will hunt for me and then stare at me for a while.
2. Whenever I see him around college he will say good morning/afternoon stopping conversaton with who ever he is talking to.
3. When he sees he leaving he runs up to me to talk to me.
4. He has offered to help me with job applications. He stopped a disciplinary from happening at work for me.
5. In one to one meetings he looks at me and smiles and tends to look me up and down (no obviously) I once caught him looking at my breast and on another occasion my legs.
6. He has been trying to find out about my domestic situation by asking am I Ms or Mrs.
7. I have a warp sense of humour that makes him laugh.
8. At my last meeting with him, he had on a really crushed up shirt. Prior to the meeting his A said that he was in the loo. I think he was trying to make himself look presentable for the meeting.
9. I feel that his PA and other members of staff have picked up on the attraction as I can feel it.

I feel really warm to this guy. I have not long come out of a relationship. We both have children but I would really like to get to know him better. He is very refined having graduated from Cambridge University with a First Class degree. I too am a graduate and trained teacher/manager. However, I feel that he is too good for me.

I do not intend to allow this guy to use me but something is building up between us that I am finding most frustrating. I do feel he is a little shy and I was planning on flirting a little with him now that we do not work together. I was badly hurt and humiliated at my previous job and he promised to do something about the bullying. He encouraged me to leave as he knew I was not happy and had been planning to leave for sometime. He thought I could get a job easily. I have been having problems recently. He has volunteered interview practice.

I would like advice on how to move this attraction on as I would hate to lose something that could have made me happy. I will probably be coming out of teaching. I have an interview with a major airline shortly as Cabin Crew. A job I was offered before and turned down.

Any useful advice welcomed please. 😕

[Ask April Masini]

It sounds like the crush is mutual, and you could really use all the advice and tips I give in Think & Date Like A Man, that you can download here: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. You’ll get it all in this book, so please buy it and read it — and let me know if it helps and how. (I’m sure it will!) 🙂

Make sure that you lose the chip you have on your shoulder, however. When you feel that he is too good for you, that’s a flashing yellow light to me that you need to work on your own self esteem. Understand what you have to offer, and if you don’t think you do have anything to offer, read Think & Date Like A Man, so you understand what men want and how you make yourself, your home and your life something that is valuable to a man. Also, it’s wise to be protective of yourself — especially since you are a mother — but don’t be too defensive about “not allowing him to use you” when you have no indication at all that that’s his motivation. You may have a history of hurt, but that doesn’t mean he’s intending to do so. So balance your concerns with reality.

I hope this helps. Let me know how things go — and join me on Facebook. I’d love to have you there. Here’s that link: [url][/url]. 🙂

[libra1963]

Thank you April. Your reply was very encourgaging. This guy is driving me crazying and I think about him all day long. I have never been out with anyone like him before and he really excites me. I feel that I have been seeing him a lot lately and need to back off. I have been throwing away diaries full of terrible memories of ex boyfriends and issues that were so depressing and where I allowed myself to be used. I am 46 and never married. I never had a mother or a role model to teach me how to deal with men either -so I learnt the hard way. I feel that I am emotionally scarred and I do find it hard to develop relationships. I feel this one has been easy as I was seeing him more or less every day. It just has not gone any where because he was my boss.

He has volunteered interview practice and suggested that someone else does it with me. Do you think I should take it up? I have also asked him if he will mentor me. He has said that he may under go the training. I wanted to use this as an opportunity to keep in contact with him. When I asked him about this, I could not look at him.

If you have any other further words of advice, I would really appreciate them.

LOL

[Ask April Masini]

It’s great that you’re getting rid of your old diaries with bad memories written in them. It’s nice to be able to not dwell on the past especially when the past isn’t very pleasant. I also appreciate that you feel you didn’t have a woman in your life to show you the ropes when it came to men and dating and relationships — which definitely can be an advantage. But I do hope that you will get Think & Date Like A Man, as I suggested in my last post. You can download it here: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], and this book will serve as the guide you never had. It’s got everything you need in it to help put you back on the right track when it comes to men. So do get it to fill the space that you now have because you’ve thrown away your old diaries. 🙂

Work is a great place to meet men, and I think it’s great you have a mutual crush there, but allow that relationship to become a social relationship. If you can’t even look at him, you need to read Think & Date Like A Man, and take and use the tips and advice for letting him know you’re interested. By not doing that and instead asking him to mentor you, you’re not sending him a clear message that you’re interested. Get the book. Read it. And then let me know if you have further questions.

I hope this helps — and please join me on AskApril.com on Facebook. I’d love to have you as a free member there. Here’s that link: [url][/url]. 🙂

[libra1963]

Hi April

I have bought your book and started printing it as I can not read for long on line and it stopped at page 12 and I can not get back into the order to print any further pages. Can you please advise.

thanks

[libra1963]

I don’t dream very often but I have had two dreams that have really stood out in my mind and I was wondering whether you or the readers could help me to understand them.

You may remember my previous post about my crush on my ex boss. Well the dreams have been based around him.

Number 1

Not long ago we both had to sign an agreement. Just before this I dreamt that he gave me a ring. It was not a very special ring. We were not in an exclusive relationship. The ring did not look very grand. I recall in real life looking at his ring which is not very grand either. I do not understand what this dream means. Clearly it does not mean engagement.

Number 2

I dream that I was invited to some sort of house warming party at his house. His girlfriend was there but was so unfriendly and neither he or she were in the house together. They were out of the house most of the time. The whole party just felt strange and I felt uncomfortable as I in the dream had feelings for him. The house was in need of work and decoration (bit like mine in real life).

Can anyone help me interprete these dreams. My unsubconscieous mind is trying to tell me something. I have not had a dream since these two.

Thanks

[libra1963]

Hi April

I have just the first few pages of your book so have loads more questions.

I have now ledt my job and have a strong chance of getting the Cabin Crew job for a major airline. Do you think he will still find me attractive as an “air stewardness” seeing that I was a manager in education before – big drop in salary?

I have three children for two previous relationships – the older two do not live with me – do you think he will be put off my that seeing that he has his own children?

I have heard that his girlfriend is very young , 11 years younger than him. Will he stay with her rather than develop a relationship with me – I recall what you said about Charles and Camilla but they had history – so its different! I am 46 but look 35. I do look after myself although could lose a few pounds!

I want him to ask me out so that we can talk but I dont think he will as he is not clear as to how I feel about him and I do not know what to do without embarassing myself. When I see him it is normally at my old work place. I have thought of trying to bump into him on the street – I tried it once but I was sitting in my car and it did not quite work. He kinda wanted to talk t o me and looked surprised to see me. I did not want to appear like a stolker?

Any further advice welcomed. I have been looking into the meaning of the dream with the ring and I think it means that he was giving me his love. Not sure what the party dream was saying to me.

[kai]

Hey Libra 1963,

If you send your name and order Number to Jenny at [email protected] or [email protected] they can help you.

[Ask April Masini]

I hope you followed [b]kai’s[/b] advice and e-mailed your information to Jenny for help downloading the rest of the book. Let me know if you still need help with that!

As for your questions — 😯 — you didn’t tell me he before that he has a girlfriend! I think that’s your biggest obstacle. Your salary drop and the fact that you have children may or may not be an issue to him, but it’s something you need to find out — if he asks you out and you get to know one another.

The advice in the book should help you get him to ask you out — if he’s available. I’m not in the business of interpreting dreams, but clearly the idea of his girlfriend and you’re not being the only woman is showing up in your dreams and your unconscious. Your mind is trying to get you to process this piece of information that is bothering you.

Let me know if that helps.

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[Anonymous]

Hi April

Thanks for linking me up with Jenny. I plan to download your book later.

Just to update you. I decided to go ahead with interview practice this afternoon with my ex-boss. He arranged it at the drop of a hat with no hesistation. I dressed to impress. I think I did well at the practice and he was impressed with my responses. I was a little upset that I did not pick up on any body language this afternoon and I did not get the opportunity to flirt with him. He has been giving me the looks for months and I believe this has been going on long before I started noticing them.

I feel he is shy and probably conscienous of his situation but I am not certain of his situation (private life) as he has not told me. I too am in a relationship that I am trying to get out of. I want to get him on his own but just cant break into him. I feel he thinks I am not interested as I am also so professional around him.

I am sure you will say the answer is in the book. I have my cabin crew interview next week. If I get it I would like him to be first to know. I did not get a proper send off at the end of term. I mentioned this to him and he is now arranging something for the beginning of the term for me. He is so thoughtful.

If you have any further comment please let me know.

thanks

LOL X

[Anonymous]

Hi Everyone

My ex-boss has been very helpful to me over the last couple of months in relation to my work issues and my decision to leave the college. He stopped a disciplinary from taking place for me.

I spent sometime with him today and he gave me interview practice. I thought it was so sweet of him to drop everything and spend time with me. I even feel he came in just for the interview practice as normally he is in only one day a week over the holidays!

I have drafted a letter of thanks to him and in it I have mentioned how much I have appreciated his help, how indecisive I am career was and that cabin crew may be the best as a change at this time, how much I will miss him and what a great pleasure it has been to work with him. I also acknowledged the great work i=he has done at the college to date and will do int he future. I use this opportunity to say that it would be nice to get to know him on a social level and that he should keep in touch.

Do you think this letter is appropriate at this time? To day he was reading my CV and made a comment about the fact that I went to a catholic school. then he kept asking me questions about my religion. Its as if he really wants to get to know me.

Advice welcomed. 😕

[Ask April Masini]

I don’t think you should write him a personal letter that says you want to get to know him socially. It’s too forward, and it takes away his opportunity to chase you!!

You were right when you said I was going to tell you to read Think & Date Like A Man! You bought it! You downloaded it — READ IT!! 😆 And follow the advice in the book. It will be like a roadmap for you. He likes you — so don’t blow this. Let him be the one who makes the first move — but give him something to go after! The book will help you in this regard enormously. 😀

Let me know how it goes!

And don’t forget to join me on Facebook. I’d love to have you there — here’s the link to click through on: [url][/url].

[libra1963]

Hi April

I have no completed your book. There were some really interesting things in there. Most of which I am doing. What I am still at loose ends about is the fact that I am afraid I am going to lose him when I break away from the college. I only have one more visit to the college and then that is it. I feel strongly that I am going to get this air cabin crew job so the mentoring may not be an opportunity to meet with him as I will no longer be teaching.

Help! What shall I do? I really like this guy. I could send him a card with a few appreciative words in but he still does not know how much I like him?

Your advice will be welcomed.

LOL 😕

[Ask April Masini]

Your concern is valid, but if you are taking the advice in Think & Date Like A Man, and showing him your interest with your flirtatious behavior, then you’ve given him the cues he needs to follow up.

What is important is not to trap and capture a man. 😆 What you want to do is give him something to chase that he will want to win over. You want to make yourself the grand prize that he has to work to win. If he doesn’t chase you or ask you out, and you’re doing everything the book suggests, then you may have to accept that he isn’t interested and you’re either reading his cues wrong, or there is something going on in his personal life that keeps him from you. On the other hand, he may be waiting for you to leave the university where he works to ask you out in a way that doesn’t mix work and play!

If you want to send him a note thanking him for helping you, and put your return address on it — or send it by e-mail so he has your e-mail address, then you’ll know for sure he has a way to contact you — and if he does, he’s interested in more than just flirting! 🙂

I hope that helps.

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[libra1963]

Hi April

I have been re-reading your comments and referring back to your book. I do not want to look like I am stalking this guy but I really do not want to waste any more time on him.

I plan to do one more thing now that we are not working together as he has no indication that I am interested in him. I want to let him know suterly and then back off and see how he reacts.

I was planning on intentionally bumping into him as he leaves work and travelling with him on the train. I thought this would allow us some time away from work to talk although public. I thought I could use it as a chance to flirt and then see how he reacts. I will only do this once so as not to freak him out.

What do you think?

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