[hickgirl4life]

I just moved in with my boyfriend of whom I’ve been with for almost 3 years. I love him so much and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, up until now that is. Everything has to be either his or mine, not anything is ours. We go grocery shopping, the grocery bill is split in half down to the last cent. Everything has to be half and half. The coach is mine, the tv is his, the table is his, the chair is mine, etc. The only thing that is ours is the bed, after we paid for it half and half. I feel like I’m living with a roommate rather then my loving boyfriend. I used to dream of the day he might ask me to marry him, but now, if he asked me, I’m not sure I’d be able to answer. What can I do to save our relationship, I can’t live knowing that everytime he buys me something and its not a special day live my Birthday or Christmas, or anything like that, I’ll have to pay him back for it. What kind of relationship is that?? Can anyone help me??

[Teejay]

This situatn calls for concern as much as u’re willing to stick with this guy. I think u should put yourself together on a ‘good day’ and talk to him about it. U shouldnt waste your time n emotions on what is not desirable to you and your future.He might’ve been a victim of a dependent women.Just express ur fears to him,lets see how he behaves afterward. Goodluck

[Ask April Masini]

[b]Teejay[/b] is right. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you don’t like the way everything is split and listen to his concerns, but more importantly, see if he listens to yours. You have to learn to communicate with him or with whoever you’re dating.

That said, if he doesn’t change, you should expect more of the same. Lots of women don’t mind this kind of set up, but clearly, it’s not right for you, and I don’t disagree with you. It may be lucky you learned this about him now so you can get out and move on and find someone who’s more generous and less concerned with making sure everything is equal.

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