[Capricorngirl25]

We have known each other for 7 months been dating since November. He asked me to be his girlfriend officially last week. The same day we run into my ex and some drama happened but we talked about it I reassured him and both agreed to brush it off. We live in LA decided to take a trip to SF this weekend because we needed some alone time, some pos+time away from what just happened with my ex. Fri nite was great! but he wasn’t making any moves on me so I started to&then he said lets talk. So he opened up and said that interaction with my ex really kind of set him back he said it’s fine and we are fine but he just needs time to get over that. He said also I was his first gf to ever ejaculate inside which I knew and he said he just starts to get worried about it.he wanted to postpone for awhile until he can figure out what he wants to do. We talked it out and both agreed no sex until he decides. Sat nitewe went out dancing &both drank. We come back to hotel start fooling around he starts having Sex with me but I stop him after awhile and he gets mad and turns over. I explained to him I stopped because I wasn’t sure what he wanted to do in regards to this..and we just talked about something Friday night& i didn’t know if he already decided or what? So he tells me he decided because he proceeded to have sex with me so that means he decided. So I just simply told him I didn’t know that’s what it meant he didn’t make it clear. So I tried to brush it off and start up again kissing him. He said he’s not in the mood and turns over. Basically I kept pushing him to talk he didn’t want to he wanted to sleep we got into a heated argument he packed all his bags said we were breaking up and asked if I was coming with him if not hes driving back to LA. We kept arguing back and forth until 4am he sent me a text saying he was waiting for me tomorrow morning to leave. But then 5am sent me a text saying because I didn’t respond hes leaving. & he left me in the hotel, I had to get a rental car and drive back myself. I know it sounds fcked up but I don’t want to loose him and i need advice what I should do now?do u think its over? What should I say to him?

[Ask April Masini]

This guy you’ve been dating for two months, took you to on a trip to San Francisco, and then left you in the hotel and drove eight hours home without you — and you’re stranded!? 😯 That’s awful! It’s very immature and it’s really bad manners and it doesn’t speak well of his character. 😕 The good news is that you learned this about him early in the relationship so you haven’t invested too much and that’s the silver lining. The bad news is that you had to rent a car and drive home alone. I’m sorry you went through this. 🙁

For now, you should definitely move on — don’t contact him. He owes you a huge apology. And, frankly, anyone who treats you this way isn’t worth your time. I think it’s time for you to start dating other people, and for future, use the first three months of dating to simply decide if you both want to continue dating each other as you get to know each other. Don’t even consider monogamy until six months of dating. This many seem like a very slow timeline — but it works because it allows you to get to know each other before getting committed too quickly. 😉

As for your feelings of still wanting him — ask yourself why you’d want to be with someone who would treat you this way. If this happened to your sister or your best friend, wouldn’t you tell them to move on? This isn’t someone who cares about you enough to treat you well, and if you want the respect that comes with true love, then you have to look elsewhere for it. I hope that helps.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe… he left you in a hotel at 5am and drove off. an emotional whiplash. 💔 he’s messy, reactive, and punishing you for confusion he created. silence is your power now. if he comes back, he better come with accountability, not excuses. you deserve a man who talks things out, not one who storms out. 🚪✨

[Ethan Morales]

You’ve been dating 7 months, recently made it official. Ran into your ex; had some drama but seemed resolved. Went on a weekend trip; he had mixed feelings about intimacy due to your ex and being your first serious sexual partner. After an argument over clarity and consent, he packed and left you stranded in the hotel early morning.

His behavior was immature and disrespectful. Leaving you alone in a hotel and driving home without you shows poor communication, poor conflict resolution, and lack of consideration for your safety. You haven’t invested too long, so it’s early to recognize red flags. While the relationship was progressing, you caught this behavior before it became a bigger issue.

He tried to push intimacy while you weren’t sure, then got upset when you communicated your feelings that’s not a healthy dynamic.

Your feelings are valid. Wanting him despite his behavior is normal; attachment can happen quickly. But wanting someone doesn’t mean they’re good for you.

Recommended Next Steps. Do not reach out immediately. He owes you accountability, but the way he handled this is a dealbreaker.

Reflect on your needs and boundaries. Ask yourself if you want to be with someone who reacts by abandoning you and disregarding your feelings.

Move on. Start focusing on yourself, your safety, and your emotional well-being. Take the time to heal and date people who show respect and maturity.

This isn’t about whether he “still loves you” it’s about how he treats you. Being left stranded in a hotel after a fight is a major red flag. Masini would say you deserve someone who communicates clearly, respects your feelings, and handles conflict like an adult.

[Marcus king]

Right now, give him space for a few days. He acted out of emotion and frustration, not logic, and you both need time to settle down. Don’t text or call him repeatedly, just stay quiet.

After that short break, send him a direct message saying you want to talk calmly and clear things up. Keep your tone steady and respectful. Let him know you care, but also make it clear that walking out on you like that isn’t acceptable.

If he responds and is willing to talk, meet in person or have a real conversation. If he ignores you or stays distant, take it as a sign that he isn’t ready for a mature relationship. You deserve someone who communicates instead of running away.

[PassionSeeker]

Oh sweetheart, that whole weekend sounds like an emotional crash. You didn’t ruin anything he did, when he chose to walk out instead of work things through. Leaving you stranded like that? That’s not a misunderstanding, that’s a serious lack of care.

I get why you still want to fix it; the heart always lags behind what the head already knows. But if he can abandon you once in the middle of the night, he can do it again. And next time, it’ll hurt worse.

Right now, don’t chase. Let the silence do the talking. If he reaches out with a genuine apology not defensiveness or blame you can decide whether a calm talk feels right. But if he stays quiet or only circles back with excuses, close that door gently and lock it.

You deserve calm, safety, and respect in love not walking on eggshells, wondering if the next argument ends with you left behind. Let this hurt teach you your worth, not make you forget it.

[Tara]

Stop romanticizing a meltdown. This man didn’t just “get upset,” he detonated, packed his bags, broke up with you mid-argument, abandoned you in another city, and drove off like a petulant teenager. That’s not passion, that’s instability. Everything you described is a blueprint for someone who can’t regulate emotions, can’t communicate, and weaponizes chaos the moment things don’t go exactly the way he wants. And you’re sitting here worrying about “losing him” when he literally left you in a hotel at 5 AM over a misunderstanding he created by being vague and childish. Here’s the truth you don’t want: it is over, and it should be. You don’t chase someone who blows up, punishes you with abandonment, and then expects you to beg. You say nothing, you block him, and you move on. A man who leaves you stranded isn’t a partner, he’s a liability. Walk away and don’t explain. Closure is just negotiation in disguise.

[Sally]

I’ve been in that kind of mess before, where the night gets emotional and suddenly you’re dealing with a version of someone you don’t even recognize. But him packing up, breaking up, and leaving you alone in a hotel… that’s not a small thing. That’s a man showing you how he handles pressure, and it’s not good.

I get why you don’t want to lose him, but right now he isn’t acting like someone who’s trying to keep you. He’s acting impulsive and punishing you for being confused in a moment he also helped create.

If it were me, I’d go quiet for a bit. Let him reach out first. You don’t have to chase someone who walked out on you. Let the dust settle and then decide if this is really the kind of love you want to fight for.

[Natalie Noah]

I can see why this situation feels so confusing and upsetting. What stands out most is the sheer immaturity and lack of consideration he displayed by leaving you stranded in a hotel after a heated argument, especially after a trip that was meant to strengthen your bond. That’s not just a small mistake; it’s a serious red flag about how he handles conflict, communication, and responsibility. Even though you’ve been dating for seven months, his actions show that he hasn’t developed the emotional maturity or respect necessary for a healthy, stable relationship.

I know it hurts because you care about him and don’t want to lose him, but you also have to ask yourself: do you want to be with someone who reacts impulsively, puts you in unsafe or stressful situations, and prioritizes his own comfort over yours? Moving on doesn’t mean giving up on love. it means valuing yourself enough to wait for someone who treats you with the respect, patience, and communication you deserve. Right now, taking space and redirecting your energy toward your own wellbeing is the healthiest choice.

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