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Boyfriend Raped Me — How can I navigate this? Need Advice.

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    Aida Omar
    Member #382,748

    Hi!
    I am new to this forum, and I’m not sure whether this type of post is appropriate here, but I’m posting it. I can’t talk to any of my family members or friends, as I feel uncomfortable talking to them.
    This might get a little long, so I’ve tried to write a summary at the end. I’ve known my boyfriend for about a year. We’re both religious. I’m a virgin, and before we got into a relationship, I made it clear that I would wait until marriage to have sex.
    He told me he respected that and that it was a good challenge for him, and he agreed.
    Everything was going well between us
    I would often go to his apartment, or he would come to my house. We would talk together, cook and eat together, and joke around. I had a lot of trust in him, and he had never behaved in a way that made me feel bad.
    1 week ago,
    It was quite late, so I stayed at his apartment.
    The next morning, when I opened my eyes, he was touching me.I was asleep and I didn’t understand what he was doing to me. Suddenly, he came on top of me and
    And he tried to force me to have sex. I forbade him a lot and told him that I am not ready for this, leave me alone. But he did not listen to me, and he forced me to have sex
    My body was frozen, and I was crying. I told him to leave the room, but he started apologizing to me and started loving me again. He didn’t let me go out for two hours.
    I was in a lot of pain, and my body was also injured I was broken. The person I trusted and loved so much betrayed me. I feel like my virginity has been taken away from me. I don’t understand what to do.
    I need your advice Plzz

    #52535

    Aida, my apologies for the delayed response.

    Sexual assault is a very serious thing, and before I can offer a suggestion, I have some questions.

    First, how are you feeling physically and emotionally?

    Have you spoken to anyone about this? Have you considered reporting the assault ?

    Have you seen your boyfriend since this happened — and do you still consider him your boyfriend?

    #52542
    Aida Omar
    Member #382,748

    First of all, AskApril, thank you very much for listening to me with compassion. Seeing your answer encouraged me that there is someone who is not judging me.
    My wounds are healing, but I’m still mentally shocked. I can’t sleep. I feel very lonely and unfortunate. I have not spoken to anyone about this. In my culture and circle, this is a very difficult topic to bring up, and I am terrified of being judged or misunderstood.
    That’s why I haven’t reported it yet.
    April, I haven’t left the house for a long time, and I haven’t seen him, but he’s messaging me now and apologizing. I blocked him.
    I will never forgive him. I feel unsafe and deeply hurt by his actions.
    He did a lot of wrong to me, broke my trust, and I hate him so much.

    #52563
    Eliana Solenn
    Member #382,755

    I’m sorry this happened to you. What you describe is absolutely rape and that is not your fault in any way. Freezing is a normal trauma response, and your body was trying to protect you. Please don’t be alone with him again. You deserve safety, support, and respect.

    #52605
    Lidya
    Member #382,753

    I am so saddened to read your post. What happened to you was not a mistake; it was a crime. Going back to such a person is tantamount to putting your life and honor in further danger.
    To get out of such a trauma, you really need professional counseling.
    You did a great job sharing your problem here.

    #52655
    Mia Monita
    Member #382,765

    Don’t be afraid of being judge because what happened is not your fault. You only gave your trust to the wrong person and he take advantage your vulnerability. Sue him, and make him suffer for what he did.

    #52660
    Freya Jhon
    Member #382,757

    I was very saddened by your post that the person you trusted so much broke your trust and hurt you.
    You did the right thing by blocking him, but you have to take care of your safety.
    If the guy tries to contact you again or threatens you, you should immediately take legal action.
    You shouldn’t worry, this doesn’t diminish your nobility or honor. Someone’s cruelty doesn’t define your character.

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