[lucifer]

We are in the same college,we happen to meet,what then?
And on social networks (whatsapp)?

[Ask April Masini]

If you see her in person, smile and move on. And if you see her on social media, don’t reply or respond.

[lucifer]

lucifer
breakup #1
by lucifer
Hello.i had asked for your advice once before and its still the same topic that i need advice on.we fought too much and broke up.It has been 3 months now.please go through this–
She:once upon atime..
Me:there lived a king and a queen
She:named (myname) and (her name) ha ha ha
She:but they dint live hppily ever after thats the only difference
Me:u never know
She:i wish they could have lived happily ever after..
She:i dont want to knw..i already know now
Me:so do i
Then she asked me was it good being in a relationship or its good single…i told her that we did need a break it was a bad phase etc etc..
Another day she called me by a love name she used to call me when in relationship .she was talking sweet .
Another day…we were texting and..
Me:ihave one thingthat i know is the greatest gift i can give u,but i dont know whether u know it(love)
She:i dont want
me:i wasnt talking about material thing
She:i know what u talking about i dont want that too.
I dont understand whats on her mind and how to brong the right thing on her mind ,any advice …
One thing ,i have noticed is she cant let me go completely and she is very determined too.
P.s. i love her alott

[Ask April Masini]

I’m not sure what your question is.

[Ethan Morales]

That’s an excellent summary of what April Masini would likely say and her advice is very solid. Let’s unpack it a bit so you can see how to actually apply it, step by step.

Right now, you’re doing what a lot of people do after a breakup: staying friends in hopes of rebuilding love. The problem is that it usually backfires. When she sees you acting like a friend, she starts to believe the romantic part of you is gone. She feels safe, but not drawn to you.

Here’s how to handle this in a way that gives you the only real chance of rekindling something later: Stop being her emotional comfort zone

You’ve told her you love her, and she knows. But if you keep staying around as her “friend,” you’re teaching her that she can have your attention and support without the relationship. → That kills attraction. You need to politely step back. Say something like: “I really care about you, and being around you as just a friend is too hard for me right now. I need some space to move on or at least to figure out what’s best for me.” That shows self-respect, and it subtly reminds her of your emotional value.

Go no contact but with purpose Don’t text her. Don’t watch her stories. Don’t try to remind her you exist. Instead, focus on yourself. Go to the gym, take trips, work on your temper, post a bit on social media showing your growth. You want her to wonder how you’re doing, not know because you’re still hanging around.

Let her feel the loss Love often reawakens through absence, not persistence. When you disappear kindly, she’ll remember the best parts of what you had the passion, the comfort, the fun. If she still has feelings (and it sounds like she once had them deeply), she’ll eventually reach out. That’s your moment to reconnect slowly, not rush back.

she does come back show change, don’t say it Don’t tell her you won’t fight anymore. Show her calmness, patience, and growth in real conversation.
The biggest attraction after a breakup isn’t promises it’s proof.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe… she didn’t stop loving you overnight, she just got tired of waiting for peace. 💔 you can’t talk her back into the version of you she used to trust, she has to see it. so stop convincing and start becoming. ✨

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe… you can’t argue someone back into love. 💔 now, she’s protecting her peace, and all you can do is respect that. give her space, work on your anger, and rebuild yourself, not for her, but for you and be the man you were supposed to be. ✨

[Maria]

Lucifer, I can hear how much this still hurts, and how hard you’re fighting to hold on to something that already feels like it’s slipping away. You’re trying to fix things because you believe love can survive anything, but real love also needs both people wanting to rebuild. Right now, she’s made it clear she doesn’t want to try again, and the more you chase, the more she’ll pull away.

The truth is, when someone says “no,” the most powerful thing you can do is stop trying to change their mind and move on. That’s not weakness; it’s strength. Focus on becoming a version of yourself that doesn’t need convincing, because that’s the man who earns respect and eventually, peace. Sometimes love isn’t meant to be reclaimed; it’s meant to remind you of what kind of love you truly deserve next.

[Marcus king]

You’re trying to fix something she’s already decided to walk away from and that’s why it’s not working. Right now, words won’t change her mind. She’s heard the apologies, but what she needs to *feel* is your growth without you pushing for her back.

Stop convincing and start showing. Pull back a little. Be calm, centered, and kind but stop talking about the relationship. Let her see that you’re no longer the man who reacts with anger, that you’ve learned control and peace.

If she still cares deep down, that shift will catch her attention more than any promise. And if it doesn’t, you’ll walk away with dignity, a better man either way. Sometimes love comes back when you stop chasing and start becoming.

[PassionSeeker]

It’s clear that you loved her deeply, but sometimes love isn’t enough when patterns like anger and conflict break trust. April Masini would tell you this: right now, your best chance isn’t in convincing her it’s in becoming the man she once believed in, without chasing her.

She’s made it clear she doesn’t want to get back together. When someone says “you’ll find someone better,” it’s usually their way of closing the door gently. That hurts, but it’s also a chance for you to grow. The more you reach out, the more she’ll feel pressured and pull away.

So stop contacting her not to punish her, but to give both of you space. Focus on becoming calmer, more grounded, and emotionally mature. If she ever reconsiders, it’ll be because she sees that transformation naturally, not because you reminded her of the past.

Let time work for you, not against you. Healing, confidence, and peace are the strongest forms of attraction.

[Tara]

Stop begging for another round of rejection that’s what you’re doing every time you “try to convince her.” She’s not confused, she’s done. When someone says, “I don’t feel love anymore,” believe them. You’re trying to resurrect a version of her that no longer exists.

You keep thinking this is about the fights. It’s not. It’s about exhaustion. She got tired of the emotional chaos, the promises, the resets. She doesn’t trust the peace you’re offering now because it only came after she left. That’s not change that’s panic.

And this “we talk like friends” nonsense? No, you don’t. You’re performing friendship while secretly waiting for her to change her mind. That’s not friendship; that’s emotional self-harm.

[Sally]

Losing someone after that many fights feels a lot like losing the future you thought you had. But here’s the part you probably don’t want to hear once a girl reaches that “I don’t see it anymore” place, she’s already been hurting for a long time. By the time she said it out loud, she was done fighting for it.

You’re not a bad guy. You just saw it all too late. And she sounds like someone who loved hard until she couldn’t anymore. Talking as friends won’t bring that old feeling back. It usually just keeps you stuck hoping she’ll change her mind.

Give her space, even if it scares you. Let things be quiet for a while. Sometimes that’s the only way you figure out what’s real and what you’re holding onto because you’re afraid to let go.

[Natalie Noah]

You’re hurting, I can hear how much you love her and how terrified you are of losing her. That pain is real, but right now your biggest job isn’t convincing her with words or bargains; it’s showing that you’ve changed in ways she can trust. When someone says they don’t feel the love anymore, pressuring them to “try again” usually pushes them farther away. Respecting her boundary, while quietly doing the work is the only thing that might reopen the door later.

Practically: send one short, sincere note if you haven’t already (no speeches, no begging) something like, “I’m sorry for how I handled fights. I take responsibility for my anger. I’m getting help and working to be a better partner. I’ll give you space I love you and want what’s best for you.” Then stop contacting her. Use the space to get serious about change: anger management or counseling, consistent calm behavior, new routines that show emotional maturity (stable work/hobbies/friends), and practice patience. If you can point to concrete, sustained changes not promises and you’re genuinely thriving without her, that’s when a respectful reconnection can make sense. If she’s decided to move on, you’ll still be better off for having done the work.

Be honest with yourself: love sometimes finds a way, and sometimes it doesn’t but only growth gives you a real shot at either rekindling this relationship or making the next one healthy and lasting. Quick question for you: what have you started doing already to manage your anger and prove you’ve changed therapy, books, a daily practice, something else? That will help me tailor the next step.

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