Okay, wait a minute — he had a fling [i]before[/i] he was dating you. That means he didn’t cheat on you. And he thought the woman he had the fling with was single, so he didn’t know she had a boyfriend when they had the fling…. If those are the facts, then I’m not sure why you’re upset. If it’s simply because he had a one night stand, then I think you have to understand that lots of men — and many women, too — do this. It doesn’t reflect how he feels about you. And if you talk to him about this, without backing him into a corner and making him defensive, you get to find out if he’s the kind of guy who’s had a lot of one night stands in his past, and if so, why, or if that was a once in a blue moon kind of thing. You also get the opportunity to figure out why you’re so upset about this, and if it’s because he’s not who you thought he was, and you don’t want to date someone who’s casual about sex — or not.
However….. if the reason you’re upset is because of the details he posted, then that’s different. I’m not sure from what you wrote if he posted the details on a page where everyone can read them, to boast, or if he posted them somewhere private and you were snooping and came across them that way. If it’s the former, and he’s the kind of guy who boasts, normally, then understand that you’re dating a guy who’s going to act this way, and decide if you want to continue seeing a person who is boastful. But if you were snooping, and you came across something that was supposed to be private, then depending on who he was writing these affair details to, it doesn’t seem like it’s the same thing.
And if the thing you’re really upset about is that he’s an “animal”, I guess I’d have to ask you what you think he did that was like an animal — in other words, are you just upset reading about his having sex — or did he do something that was immoral or illegal or out of the ordinary?
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