[Scarlet]

My latest situation is a great example of the culture shock I’ve experienced on re-entering the dating scene after divorce. I met a guy online and we started texting/talking daily for a week. Then he skipped Monday altogether, but sent single/short “have a nice day” type texts (which didn’t ask any question to keep the conversation going) Tuesday and Wednesday! What’s up with that?! All I knew to do was to respond in kind which meant he sent me one text and I responded with one text and that was it. I want him to ask me out so I can see if there’s any in person chemistry. What should I do? Thanks!

[Ask April Masini]

Did you get the book I suggested last month, and the month before that? ❓ ❓

Here’s the link, again: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. If not, GET IT! You really need to read it — especially since you’re re-entering the dating world after divorce. 😉 If you read this forum regularly, or even sometimes, you’ll know that I usually do not recommend people buy my books — unless I really think it will help, and in your case, I’m recommending it [i]for the third time[/i], based on what you’re writing me. You should read it.

As a courtesy…… here’s the answer to your questions, from today (but please get and read the book before you post again):

[quote]My latest situation is a great example of the culture shock I’ve experienced on re-entering the dating scene after divorce. I met a guy online and we started texting/talking daily for a week. Then he skipped Monday altogether, but sent single/short “have a nice day” type texts (which didn’t ask any question to keep the conversation going) Tuesday and Wednesday! What’s up with that?! [/quote]

Nothing’s up with that. He’s lost interest, so he’s not engaging you or asking you out. 😳

[quote]I want him to ask me out so I can see if there’s any in person chemistry. What should I do?[/quote]

Get [b]Think & Date Like A Man[/b], read it, and follow the advice in there. 😀

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[Scarlet]

Hi, I’ve got the book and have read it, but it seems to focus on what to do once we are in a relationship, whereas I need help on how to get to one.

I’ve been on two dates with the guy who before the dates seemed to have lost interest. Now, things are going pretty well – good morning texts followed by telephone calls at night. Now my frustration is in not keeping plans going, particularly as new years eve approaches. Last night we talked for an hour, but no plans for date #3! Also, new years eve is right around the corner and it’s time to make plans. My preference is to go out with him, but I want to make other plans if he’s not going to ask me out.

I got the good morning text this morning and hope for communication tonight.

How can I find out whether he intends to take me out new years eve?

[Yousaf]

My name is yousaf i am 18 year old i like a girl her name is fatima when i talk to her she ignore me i look her she looks back when i pas her she look at me at that time i look her she spently me one time i touched her hand she say slowly leave me what i do to make friendshp with her.

[Scarlet]

Why is the response to my question a totally unrelated question from someone else??

[Ask April Masini]

First of all, [b]Yousaf[/b], please create a New Topic for your question instead of posting as a reply to someone else’s, here. As soon as you do that (on the first page of the Relationship Forum), I’ll answer your question there. 😀 When people post as a reply, instead of a new topic, their post shows up after the string of posts they replied, to. 😉

So, [b]Scarlet[/b]! I’m glad you got the book, but I’d ask you to take another look at it. The chapters in it are about what to do to GET a man, and then to KEEP him once you have him. It’s very detailed. Skimming the book won’t help you as much as reading it. 😉 There are chapters on how a man thinks, how your body language sends him messages, what to wear, how to groom yourself, and where to meet men, as well as how to conduct yourself when you do meet one. This is all very relevant. As is being busy! 😉 I know you want him to ask you out, and being [i]enticing[/i] and [i]alluring[/i] is going to get you better results than being demanding or expectant. 😎 If he hasn’t asked you out yet, you should make other plans. If you want to wait a week to do so, that’s fine — but don’t pressure him. You’ll know he wants to ask you out — if he does. 😉

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[Yousaf]

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i want to friendshp with a girl she like me i really like when i look her she looks me back sometimes she ignore me one time i touched her hand she says slowly leave me what i do to make friendshp with her i really want her.plz give me advice plz give.plz

[Yousaf]

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i want to friendshp with a girl she like me i really like when i look her she looks me back sometimes she ignore me one time i touched her hand she says slowly leave me what i do to make friendshp with her i really want her.plz give me advice plz give.plz

[Ask April Masini]

Thank you for posting this as a new thread! I’ve answered you there, [b]yousef[/b]. 🙂

[Scarlet]

He called last night. I tried being enticing and alluring. He asked me what I am doing this weekend. Friday night I’m going out to dinner with another guy. I didn’t tell him that.

Saturday I’m not so sure and Sunday I may go to a holiday party.

I want him to ask me out and am afraid if I tell him I’m booked, then he won’t ask!

How should I have answered when he asked me what I’m doing?

[Ask April Masini]

Be coy. 😎 Just tell him you’re busy and don’t give him any details. You can add that whatever it is you’re doing, you’d rather be doing it with him. 😉 And re-read the book, [b]Think & Date Like A Man[/b] [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]! It will help you a lot. Buying it is the first step, but reading it and then [i]using[/i] what is in it — is what will bring you success. 😀 Re-read it. 😉 😉

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[Scarlet]

I just found out that my ex-husband of 20 years is getting remarried. I’m trying to stave off being depressed about it. I think the biggest source of sadness is not having found Mr. Right myself. For some time I have been dating several guys, none of whom seems to be Mr. Right, and trying to keep my options open until Mr. Right comes along. Is that the best strategy? First there’s the guy I’m really crazy about (and whose commitment would relieve me of these blues), but he doesn’t seem to be able to let go of his ex-wife. Second there’s the guy with the baby mama whose happily ever after doesn’t seem to match mine (I believe in marriage, but he doesn’t appear to). Third there’s the widower with whom I’ve had 3 dates but am now just getting morning text greetings (nice, but not enough to stop dating others). All I want is a man to share my life with – why is it so difficult the second time around? Am I handling this right?

[Ask April Masini]

It’s understandable that your ex-husband’s marriage is a reference point that helps remind you that you haven’t achieved your goal of re-marrying. 😥 Over the couple of years that you’ve been writing here, I keep referring you back to [b]Think & Date Like A Man[/b], over and over again, but it’s not apparent that you’re really reading it or following what’s written in it. 😳 Instead of really focusing on what you want and being serious about getting it, you seem to keep taking wrong turns and ignoring the advice I’ve given you here, and in the book. 😥

I can only help you as much as you want to help yourself, but you’re a lot more interested in stirring the pot than you are really achieving your goal. I know that may be hard to hear, but since I’ve answered your questions here for years now, I think it’s time for you to hear it. 😉 Go back and re-read the book, with a cup of coffee, and use a yellow highlighter to underline what you need to do differently. Re-read the string of posts here and the advice. Other than that, I’m not sure I can help you. 😕 I’d like to, but I can’t do it without your focused, long-term, consistent efforts.

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[Scarlet]

I have re-read the book with a highlighter! And now I’ve met someone promising on a dating site. We’ve exchanged questions and he has great answers. He’s sent me 3 questions and I’m writing to get advice on how to answer, especially his 3rd question as it may be a trap! I don’t want to scare him off!!!

Here are his answers to my questions:

1. What does happily ever after look like to you?

Finding the right person for marriage, life-long companionship, going through life’s ups and downs together, sharing and supporting each other, continual growth, enjoying the simple day-to-day experiences of a family, and a smile that lasts a lifetime

2. What do you think are the three best traits you have to offer a partner?
Honesty, sincerity, and compassion

3. What are you looking for in a relationship partner?
Happiness, confidence, secure with oneself, honesty, open communication, optimistic, and family

Here are his questions for me to answer:

1. How would you describe your ideal partner?
2. What does finding the “right” person mean to you? I’m sneaking in a fourth question……..what letters are missing from “S?”
3. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

Do you have any advice on how to answer his questions, especially number 3???

Thanks!!!

[Ask April Masini]

I think it’s a good idea to be honest, specific where you can be, and don’t consider question number 3 a trap — consider it an opportunity to divulge something about yourself that you’d like to change. It could be something like procrastination or you’d like to work out at the gym more — or it could be something funny, like, you’d like to be six feet tall, but chances are, your days of growth spurts are over, or you wish you didn’t like country music as much as you do, but you just love, love, love it. Put yourself in his shoes, and imagine he’s reading two dozen responses to these questions from yourself and others, and craft an answer that’s candid, but grabs him. 😉

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