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Well, how about this? I could tell him about the fact that I’ve been best friends with her since 1986 but hesitate to speak fir her in how she would describe me. However, a professional friend wrote me a reference letter about 5 years ago and among the wirk related comments he said that at the time he’d known me for approximately 10 years and that I am a very kind and pleasant person.

What do you think?

[Ask April Masini]

What do you think [i]he’d[/i] think, reading that? 😉 Put yourself in his shoes.

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I got two business as usual emails from 2.5 year, long distance guy today:

The first said:

Hi

What’s up?
I’ve been pretty busy lately but have decided I need a break so planned some vacation over the next couple months.
I looked at the schedule and this was what was available. I possibly could swap some time around with others.

Are we going to the beach again?

The second said:

“I was checking your reply and realized I didn’t send the dates, duh.”

And then plugged in dates, including today and tomorrow!

Should I even respond to this business as usual email?

[Ask April Masini]

After two and a half years? 😯 No.

Try to stay focused on what you want, and let go of anyone who is not compatible with you and your relationship goals. 😀

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I’ve been corresponding with John, a new guy I met online. We moved off-site at a reasonable pace and are now corresponding directly. He sent me a picture of himself with his grown daughter. I returned the gesture and sent him a picture of me with my daughter, although mine is a few years old and I pointed that out to him.

In response he sent me an email ending with “So now I’m day dreaming about a dinner date with you two, thoughts?”

[u]I’m assuming he means with me and my daughter as opposed to me and his daughter.
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He probably means well, but I would NEVER introduce my daughter to a guy at the same time I met him! In fact, it would only be after an extended period of dating and having formed an expectation of a definite future with him as “Mr. Right” that I would let them meet.

I think he has potential and I’d like to meet him myself, but that’s all.

How should I respond?

[Ask April Masini]

You’re probably realizing right now why it’s [u]never[/u] a good idea to send a photo of your child to a man you recently met on the internet. 😕 Not everyone has the same judgment or orientation when it comes to kids. You’re absolutely right to tell him you would never include your child in your dating life! 😉 Good instincts. Stick with them! 😀

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I met a new guy on line about a month ago (John). We seem compatable, but live 5 hours apart (each way) He’s always saying he wants me to “share more of what I’m thinking and feeling.” What I’m thinking and feeling now is frustration about not having plans to meet in person to find out whether we have in person chemistry, because without that it doesn’t matter how compatable we are on paper or how attracted we are to each other’s pictures. We talk on the phone too, but in person is a must! Is he wasting my time? What should I do? Thanks

[Ask April Masini]

You’re right that chemistry is definitely important, but because you’re a single parent, you can especially use the online dating sites to your advantage, to filter out guys with whom you’re just not compatible with on the basics — like age, job, geography, religion, kids or no kids, family background, etc. If you’ve already done that online (which is a great way not to waste your energy in real life dating guys who possess deal breakers), and there’s no momentum, then it’s a good idea to respond less often, if at all. Hope that helps!

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I met a new guy, James, at a wine tasting last week and then at another, similar type of event, after that. Nice that he’s local and we’ve met in person twice. He asked me out for and let me pick the when. I picked Tuesday night because my daughter will be out of town next week. I was really expecting that we’d meet somewhere, but his most recent text from last night reads “Tuesday sounds great! We can meet or I can come get you.” I I don’t think he’s a security risk, although I’ve only met him twice at social events. I think he’s just trying to be nice. You may ask what’s my preference. I have picked feelings, some practical, some not so much. Practically, I have a dog who needs grooming and likes to bite males he’s never met before, so that could be avoided with meeting. Meeting would spare me that and also rushing home after work to deal with dog/ clean up the house and get ready. On the other hand, I don’t want him to think I consider him a security risk when I do not. I don’t know the modern day ettiquette on this “non-online” situation. HOW SHOULD I RESPOND? TX

[Ask April Masini]

Meet him at the venue. 😉

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I followed your advice – James and I agreed to meet tomorrow after work. BUT the last I heard from him was a text last Wednesday saying, “Sounds good! Let me see the choices we have…there are lots of then.” What do I do if I don’t hear anything else back?????

[Ask April Masini]

Move on. If he doesn’t respond, he’s not that into you. 😉

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Ok, thanks, but by “respond” do you mean “follow up”? There’s nothing for him to respond to – he was supposed to follow up on where and what time to meet. His last text of last Wednesday said “Let me see the choices we have.,…there are lots of them.” So he wouldn’t be responding, he’d be following up. Just want to make sure we are on the same page. Thanks.

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What should I do if I hear from him tomorrow?

[Ask April Masini]

If he doesn’t follow up, move on. 😉 If you don’t hear from him tomorrow, move on. 😉 The ball is in his court, not yours. 🙂

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