[Ask April Masini]

I think you already did it! 😉 There’s nothing else to do at this point. If you like a guy and want to date him, you have to give him reason to ask you out. It’s that simple. When he feels like you’re scheduling him in, he may feel that you’ve got other priorities and you’re not that interested. I’m not talking about being too available, but it seems like you lost focus and instead of treating him like an attractive guy you’d like to date, you treated him a little more like a business appointment that need attention. 😕

Since you’ve written 10 pages of questions that I’ve answered here, 😮 I hope you’ll buy [b]Think & Date Like A Man[/b], because it’s going to help you a lot, answer questions like these so you don’t have to worry after the fact, and also support this site. Here’s the link: [url]http://askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]

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[Scarlet]

I have bought and read Think and Date Like A Man. I couldn’t help that I have promised my daughter certain plans for Halloween.

Since we have each other’s numbers and are set up to text, what if I send him a text, ask whether he’s having a good time, and let him know I wish I could have made it?

[Scarlet]

I didn’t tell him this, but I had a prior commitment for Halloween with my daughter tonight and could not change it.

Anyway, what do you think of this text?

Hey, Happy Halloween! I’m so jealous that you are getting to go to crawl-o-week, while I have plans that can’t be changed. Crawl-o-ween sounds like fun, especially when there is a “mysterious one in the mask” (also known as “G”) lurking around! BOO!

Do you think that would be flirty enough to let him know I’m interested and get things moving for another time when I can make it?

[Ask April Masini]

I think the text is a little too desperate, since he already asked and you said no. You’ll see him in yoga class again, and you can flirt with him in person there. 😉

That’s my advice!

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[Scarlet]

Bottom line: I met a new guy, but don’t know how to react to his inviting me to his town for a first date.

We live in towns about 45 minutes away from each other and met Thursday night through a mutual friend who lives in the middle. He asked me for my card and he emailed me that night – just a simple “nice to meet you, would like to chat again sometime soon.” I responded in kind a little less than 24 hours later (late Friday afternoon).

He responded with an hour and said he’d “like to invite me” to his town and show me some restaurants. He’ll be out if town Monday night through Thursday night for business bit is “available when you are.”

I like this guy and would like to give it a chance, but I’m concerned that my driving to his town is not a good precedent to set for a first date. I think he should be driving over here and taking me out here to impress me, for a first date, at least, if not also the second and third.

How do you think I should respond?

Thanks!

[Ask April Masini]

I think you’re absolutely right. You can tell him that you’d love to see him, but you’re just too busy to get out there. 😉

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[Sally]

Yeah, I’ve been in that spot. There was this guy who said all the right things, talked about wanting a real relationship, but after a while it was just messages and no plans. I kept hoping he’d follow through, but deep down I knew if he really wanted to, he would have.

It hurts because that spark doesn’t go away right away. But I learned not to chase someone who only shows up halfway. You can still enjoy talking to him, just don’t hang your heart on it. Let him be a maybe while you stay open to someone who’s sure.

If he really wants to see you again, he’ll make it happen. And if not, you’ll already be moving on, and that ends up feeling a lot lighter.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

girl… he’s giving pen-pal energy, not boyfriend vibes 😩 like, all talk, no tickets booked?? if he wanted to see you, he’d already be there! whatever. you’re not a backup plan or his “maybe someday” option, okayy?. keep the banter if it’s fun, but stop investing like it’s love. let him chase the silence for once. chemistry’s cute, but consistency? that’s the real spark. 💅✨

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