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So I met this girl at my job back when I started a few months ago. I actually went about it the wussy way and added her on Facebook, told her we worked together, then things went from there. We took a break and talked a few times before going out for a drink. She was really interested at the start of things. But when we went for a drink, her “guy friend” showed up, and they left. So I was upset about it, thought she wasn’t interested, but the next day she said it wasn’t like that at all, she just thought I didn’t want to do anything else that night but stay at the bar, which was true. So we went out for a drink the next weekend and it was amazing. We hung out all night, drank a lot, made out a lot, and actually talked about dating. She however said she just wanted to have fun with me and didn’t want anything serious right now. So i agreed with her on that. Then the following week which was last week, we got lunch together and that went really nice also. Then I quit my job the next day! She laughed after I told her that I understood if she didn’t want to hang anymore because I quit, she said that didn’t matter at all to her. But we haven’t hung out since then! It’s only been 5 days, but I’m still worried because I’ve tried to hang out with her 3 times since then. I just seem like i’m losing her each and every day. I try to hang out, she will tell me she has something to do and that it’s over at a certain time, but she will still say “maybe after that”, and then it just doesn’t seem to work out. Tonight she got off work at 8, so I asked her if she wanted to get a drink. She said “your not helping my alcoholism any, lol, but seriously, I think i’m going to go for a run when I get off, if I have the energy”. So she has been shutting the door on us hanging out. Then I told her we could just do lunch on Tuesday if she was interested in that, and she never replied. So I’m worried she has lost interest, maybe I’ve been bugging her about hanging out too much. I don’t really think she’s playing hard to get, I just feel like she has total control! When we first planned to hang out a few months ago, I cancelled twice on her, that seemed to give me the upper hand, now that she has been canceling, she has it back! Now she seems to be ignoring my calls and texts. She still texts me, just not like she used to. I did ask her a few days ago if she wanted to go see a band play with me next Saturday and she said, for sure! But I’m just not sure what to do about things. I believe I’ll see if she wants to do lunch this week, if she cancels or doesn’t want to do that, then I will give it a rest for a while and take a step back. I may be pressuring her into hanging out or something. Just not sure. All I do know is that she was very interested in me just a couple days ago, and she still may be, I just don’t sense the same things that I did. So what can I do to help this situation out? When we do hang out, we have a GREAT time! She is the one that hugs me, starts kissing me, she always comes on to me! And when we talk on the phone it goes really well! I think I just screw things up when I text!!! lol. but the last 2 times I’ve called she hasn’t answered, so I’m not sure what to do!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Nice guys finish last and if you seem too available, you won’t be as attractive to her. 😳 From what you describe, you’re coming on too strong, too often. Disappear and you’ll be more of a valuable commodity.

I know you think she has all the control, but the truth is that she has all the control over herself and you have all the control over yourself. Exercise your own control! 😉

Women really like men who aren’t available all the time and who are desired by other women. If you appear to be someone who’s got his own thing going on, she’s going to be a lot more interested. 😉

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