You stopped the friendships he knew about, you acknowledged the past, and you stayed committed. Yet he’s carried an imagined picture of you that he can’t let go of, and his unresolved jealousy turned into something destructive. he cheated, then blamed you. That pattern points less to your choices and more to his own wounds: projection, insecurity, and an inability to process the past without hurting the person right in front of him.
You deserve clarity and safety more than endless emotional spin. Counseling is the right idea both together and separately but it only works if he’s willing to own his part and actually change. The trial separation he suggested can be useful if both of you agree to honest boundaries and time-limited goals: what will you test, how long, and what counts as progress? Without concrete agreements, separation can become a way to avoid responsibility rather than a path to healing. Also, please protect yourself emotionally: keep your side of the street clean, yes, but don’t let that become your only job while he avoids the deeper work.
Love is not enough when trust is fractured and one partner keeps choosing patterns that hurt you. If he truly wants to heal and rebuild, you’ll see evidence in his actions: consistent transparency, therapy, and real accountability. If he resists or keeps making you the emotional scapegoat, you may need to prioritize your own life and happiness, even if it means letting go. I’m here with you tell me what scares you most about moving forward, and we’ll untangle it together.
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